"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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sore throat quick fixes?

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i have a really bad sore throat lately.. anyone have a quick fix for it? tried drinking lots of water (like 4 litres a day) and its not helping.

teaching + 5 hours of kareoke a night is taking its toll.. haha.. cant hit the high notes anymore..
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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you are gonna laugh because it looks like a grandma recipe :
heat water + lemon juice from one fresh lemon + canelle (i don't know if it the right word in english, it's a spice) and add honey
this does not fix the problem however, but after trying it, it is really a relief. the soar throat comes back after a few hours
 

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With the weather warming up (in the northern hemisphere, anyway), a lot of pollen is being pumped into the air. With that pollen comes the ol' seasonal allergies, a symptom of which is nasal congestion.

Your body tries to rid itself of your excess mucous pretty much any way it can, and one of those ways happens to be by draining it down your throat, which causes irritation.

And I imagine your karaoke only exacerbates the "condition," but it's nothing fatal. At worst, it's a continual discomfort. Keep up the fluid intake and your mucous should thin out enough to lessen the discomfort at least a little bit, but there's nothing you can really do: even taking antihistamines will just make the stuff drain faster into your throat. (Trust me—Von Neuen's been there, done that.)

Originally posted by 2xp
you are gonna laugh because it looks like a grandma recipe :
heat water + lemon juice from one fresh lemon + canelle (i don't know if it the right word in english, it's a spice) and add honey
this does not fix the problem however, but after trying it, it is really a relief. the soar throat comes back after a few hours
Cannelle is French for "cinnamon," if anyone was curious.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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As a professional musician, here's some tips I've picked up from a variety of singers:

When you are speaking a lot (like when teaching), try to vary the pitch of your voice a bit. Speaking constantly in the usual, low, monotone range of your voice is very hard on the vocal chords.

Keep drinking water, including before you go to sleep. When you are becoming dehydrated, one of the first places your body pulls water from is your throat.

Drink warm tea mixed with honey.

I realize this one may not be fun while you're at a karaoke bar: but try not to drink anything cold after your voice is warmed up. It's like pouring ice water on a hot engine. If you can live without beer, go for room-temperature water.

Swimming is the best exercise for singing.

When you are singing, try not to sing from your throat, especially on the high notes. Most people breathe high in their chest and sing from their throat. If you aren't familiar with breathing low in your body or singing with head resonance, you're doing extra work and straining your vocal chords. A voice teacher could help with this.

Go to a music store or online and find "Entertainer's Secret." It's a throat spray that some singers I've known swear by.

I hope some of this helps. Good luck! :)
 
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