Sometimes they ask for advice...

[Kailex]

Have had a strange situation occur to me here at work in the last two weeks.
A week ago, a co-worker of mine was complaining about how hungry she was and how she had no time to make breakfast for herself. I seriously wanted a break to go outside so I offered to get her something if she gave me the money.

She said "Yes" at first and then became reluctant stating that she didn't want me to go just for her. I told her I wasn't, that I wanted to go outside and get a coffee while I was at it.

She then switched her stance to a "It's okay, nevermind."

I told her once more that it wasn't a problem. She said that she could hold out til lunch to which I responded:

"I don't want to hear you b!tching about how hungry you are all morning if I don't go. I absolutely do NOT want to hear it from you. So you better be ready to pipe down about not having had a chance to eat."

Every female head turned. It was as if a signal had been sent out throughout the entire office. I roam from office to office so I have no permanent desk. So they really hadn't gotten a taste of the Kailex until now.

So she gave me the money and I got my coffee and my sponsored 20 minute break in beautiful weather.

As SOON as I come back, one of the women at the office sits me down and asks me for some advice on her boyfriend.

Hours later, another one does the same.

This week, two others have asked me about their husband and the other about a prospective LTR.

I've been trying to pinpoint WHY I'm being asked for advice about relationships at the workplace when there had been no reason. I had no clue at first why I was doing free counseling for these women. I thought that maybe they wanted a male perspective but then further pinpointed it to the "breakfast incident" and the fact that I was willing to put down my foot about not wanting to hear a woman complain all morning long.

Has anyone ever had this happen to them?
Everytime they asked me for advice, it seemed like their man was an Uber-AFC who they REALLY wanted to man up but weren't.

 

[5string]

Alpha traits buddy. That's why. They all get interested in the man in charge who is not afraid to say what needs to be said and call BS, BS! Now they are all submissive to you as you have shown them that you be the man! Enjoy the attention.

 

[DMSR76]

This is an excellent thread topic. A have a female acquaintance in another state that calls me a couple times a month to ask for relationship and other advice.

We met a couple years ago at conference. I was interested in the chick physically, and I bluntly told her back then that I had NO intentions of being "her friend". She has a boyfriend, so although her calls annoy me on some level, I do enjoy challenging her faulty logic and giving her a man's-man perspective on various subjects. Coincidentally, she even called me last night and remarked "I like to talk to you because you give me an unbiased view of things". That's woman speak for: "You don't sugar coat your message at all. Unlike those orbiters (and even my boyfriend), you don't kiss my ass."

Regardless of what they say, women respect a man who don't mind exposing all their unpleasant habits and warped belief system through sound reasoning. They naturally gravitate toward guys who don't pedestalize them.

 

[nismo-4]

It's all because you don't shop at Pedestal Zone! Never patronize that store. These women kinda want you.

 

[DJDamage]

I found that giving a woman an advice on a relationship is as useless as taking a relationship advice from them, why? because in the end its interest levels that determines what actions they are going to take, not logic or your advice but how they feel.

I would also avoid being that guy that gives advice and gets a friendly hug or a pat on the back because then you are no diffferent then her girlfriends or that AFC guy she hangs around with that will never let him get into her vagina.

 

[Jitterbug]

Women have loved asking me for relationship advices since I was in high school, because I'm known as the no-nonsense guy, but I never tell them anything other than jokes. Other than some of my male friends and a particular female friend (that is more like my big sister), I don't advise people on dating / relationships, especially if they're female. Why help other guys get laid for free?

 

[spider_007]

this is the roll i've always ended up in....A FVCKIN' SHRINK!!!! You try to enlighten them, and all of a suden they are coming to you with avery single problem on earth. Oh how i hate it.

 

[Kailex]

I found that giving a woman an advice on a relationship is as useless as taking a relationship advice from them, why? because in the end its interest levels that determines what actions they are going to take, not logic or your advice but how they feel.

I would also avoid being that guy that gives advice and gets a friendly hug or a pat on the back because then you are no diffferent then her girlfriends or that AFC guy she hangs around with that will never let him get into her vagina.

I'm not only avoiding that because I don't want to be THAT guy, but it's at work and I am not getting paid to be my co-workers' psychologist.

That's my whole point though, it's at work and I'd never look for a relationship within those boundaries. So the dynamic changes a bit for me when it comes to those terms.

If it were OUTSIDE of the work world, there's absolutely NO way I would even be listening about other men.

 

[jophil28]

Alpha traits buddy. That's why. They all get interested in the man in charge who is not afraid to say what needs to be said and call BS, BS! Now they are all submissive to you as you have shown them that you be the man! Enjoy the attention.

The "Voice of Authority" creates a willingness in inferiors to listen and to follow.
Military officers are trained in the art.

One interesting side issue here, Kailex. You will be expected from now on to continue to demonstrate your "no nonsense" style occasionally.

 

[jophil28]

They naturally gravitate toward guys who don't pedestalize them.

But then they go and marry guys who do !

 

[Kailex]

The "Voice of Authority" creates a willingness in inferiors to listen and to follow.
Military officers are trained in the art.

One interesting side issue here, Kailex. You will be expected from now on to continue to demonstrate your "no nonsense" style occasionally.

Trust me, that is not a problem since it's completely congruent with my normal behavior. The women I've dated in the past have been more than a decent training ground to deal with women in general.