I've been lurking around here for a few weeks and wanted to post about something that seemed so simple yet worked amazingly well.
I read somewhere in the forums here (I can't find the post) about how to approach women. One detail that I thought was very minor at the time was how to shake hands.
Basically, shake hands with a woman like she's a woman: palm up, hold her hand, don't pump and squeeze, look her in the eye, smile, and learn her name.
I know, you're probably thinking, "Really, DA? ur really that dumb?" But this is a revelation to me.
There has not been one single woman who didn't respond positively to me after I shook hands. Two examples stand out:
I was at a bar, outside in the smoking area. A 22-year-old woman was out there with her boyfriend. He was a "shy" type and they weren't talking, he was just sort of there, like the uncomfortable metal chairs and ash trays. I invited myself to sit with them and chatted the young lady up.
"By the way, my name is," and I held my hand out. She took it, and didn't take it back! I held eye contact and we chatted. The bf left at some point, I don't know or care when, and we ended up flirting and making out for a little bit.
She rushed back in when bf started texting her from inside the bar.
The next situation was at work. I was at a job site working with a woman that was a total b!tch to me. When we were about to wrap up, I held out my hand, said, "Thank for you help." She took it, I held eye contact, smiled, repeated her name.
Her face actually melted. This angry, mean-@ss woman transformed. Her eyes softened, and something like a smile tugged at the corner of her lips. It was a complete 180 in attitude.
For the rest of my time there, she would smile at me whenever she passed by instead of frowning and growling.
I'm sure I'm bringing other factors into play here. For example, my confidence level has rocketed since I've been reading these forums. I'm also taking care of myself, so instead of looking like a slob I'm better dressed and much better groomed.
But it seems to me that if I take a woman's hand, she immediately connects.
I read somewhere in the forums here (I can't find the post) about how to approach women. One detail that I thought was very minor at the time was how to shake hands.
Basically, shake hands with a woman like she's a woman: palm up, hold her hand, don't pump and squeeze, look her in the eye, smile, and learn her name.
I know, you're probably thinking, "Really, DA? ur really that dumb?" But this is a revelation to me.
There has not been one single woman who didn't respond positively to me after I shook hands. Two examples stand out:
I was at a bar, outside in the smoking area. A 22-year-old woman was out there with her boyfriend. He was a "shy" type and they weren't talking, he was just sort of there, like the uncomfortable metal chairs and ash trays. I invited myself to sit with them and chatted the young lady up.
"By the way, my name is," and I held my hand out. She took it, and didn't take it back! I held eye contact and we chatted. The bf left at some point, I don't know or care when, and we ended up flirting and making out for a little bit.
She rushed back in when bf started texting her from inside the bar.
The next situation was at work. I was at a job site working with a woman that was a total b!tch to me. When we were about to wrap up, I held out my hand, said, "Thank for you help." She took it, I held eye contact, smiled, repeated her name.
Her face actually melted. This angry, mean-@ss woman transformed. Her eyes softened, and something like a smile tugged at the corner of her lips. It was a complete 180 in attitude.
For the rest of my time there, she would smile at me whenever she passed by instead of frowning and growling.
I'm sure I'm bringing other factors into play here. For example, my confidence level has rocketed since I've been reading these forums. I'm also taking care of myself, so instead of looking like a slob I'm better dressed and much better groomed.
But it seems to me that if I take a woman's hand, she immediately connects.
