"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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sometimes i may take it too far.

dmatter

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is there anway to know when you take it too far with a girl? ill be teasing a girl and i might go to far not knowing ive offended her or pissed her off cause im used to hear her laugh and eventually shell get mad but i try to make her laugh more and itll work or sometimes backfire. when is teasing considered an insult?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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619joe

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You can usually tell when you do enough teasing.If you pay attention to when her laughs are dying down and look at her body language you can usually tell when you should knock it off for a bit
 

FairShake

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I always do that. Kiss of death for me.

Lower your jokes-per-minute ratio. And don't use phrases like "jokes-per-minute-ratio."

And don't bust it up about race. Or trannies. Or bathroom humor. Actually, just keep it simple but with confidence.
 
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