Sometimes All You Need To Do Is Turn Up! Forget Game!

[SinJester]

Just had a major ephiphany.

If you are a guy somewhere through high school some girl will like you. Probably more. That's it. No ifs or buts. You don't need to have game, be 'alpha', popular, good-looking WHATEVER. You know how you get one-itus for a girl? Some girl probably has that for you RIGHT NOW but chances are you will never find out. Why? Hey, how long did it take for you to tell your one-ituses that you liked them, if you did at all.

I know people are going to disagree but I don't care. I'm not saying to ditch the site or really change anything. Just know that if you are completely yourself some people will genuinly be attracted to you with no strings attatched. Even if they don't know you they will fall in love with you, they will project onto you just like you do with girls.

Maybe one day you will find this out from experiance, like me, and know deeply in you heart it's true. Maybe you will dismiss this and go and watch some more David DeAngelo or read Pook. Who knows, whatever happens is meant to happen for you.

I've overcome a lot of limiting beliefs set by society, now it's time to overcome some negative beliefs learned on here. We don't have to DO anything to get girls attracted to us. Sure it might not attract your one-itus but maybe she isn't right for you.

There's hope for everyone.

It's really late but I just HAD to post this. Crazy day, I'll probably do a much longer more detailed post later.

 

[LostAndConfused]

great post!

I really agree with you on this one man, I've realized in retrospect I've missed out on alot of attractive girls because I failed to recognize that.

however the one exception is that if your social proof is low, even if u are an interesting person they won't go for you.

 

[Yookiwooki]

I totally agree,

I came to this site only looking to find things to say and do to get girls, but I realized that its all about self-improvement. I don't really know exactly what a DJ is yet, but I realized a couple months ago that its not just someone who gets a lot of attention from girls; theres so much more to it.

The more I come to these forums, the more fuzzy my definition of a DJ gets.

 

[Maxtro]

Heh I don't mean to be a jerk, but what's the point in knowing that some girl likes you if you are not going to find out or if you do it will be too late?

I remember when I was 19 or something and I was in Jack in the Box. A couple of girls approached me,

"Are you Maxtro?"
"Uh, yeah"
"Do you know our friend? (girls name that I can't remember) She had a crush on you in High School"

I didn't have a clue who that chick was and it didn't do me any good finding out when they told me. If I had been told that she liked me when I was in school then I could have dated her.

I have no idea how many other girls may have liked me but never said anything to me.

I don't get an ego boost out of knowing that such and such chick liked me, if anything I consider it a missed opportunity and it bums me out.

Also I've had 3 girls tell me that they liked me. That would have been great an all, if they weren't pushing 200lbs. The last time that happened was 3-4 years ago.

So not doing anything to attract women, might end up with some beast telling you that she likes you.

 

[SinJester]

Maxtro I said I'm not telling guys to stop learning how to attract women and getting experiance with that. It's just that sosuave and my own experiances have left me with soem damaging limtiting beliefs:

-I can't show interest or they will lose it
-I can't open up or I will be put into the friends zone
-I can't attract anyone if I just be myself
-I need game and techniques to attract women
-I need to have a journey of self-improvement in order to attract anyone

The whole point of this post is to show people that you don't need to do or have anything rather than just be yourself or just be there and some people will fall for you. I never promised they will be hot, but hey if someone can why can't someone else? And if someone likes you, hell go out and find them.

Do you see where I'm going with this? I'm against the whole notion that you have to do some to have confidence, it's something we should all have but it's destroyed by society. While this website saved me it also messed me up a bit because and it overcomplicated everything. The notion that you have to DO something to get someone attracted can be false.

Hope it helps someone. Thanks L&C and Yookiewookie.

 

[Quiksilver]

whatever happens is meant to happen

That in itself is a limiting belief, Jester.

Rather than that, I believe we create our own reality to a major extent.

 

[SinJester]

What ever happens in meant to happen in the formation of ourselves. Think back at the painfull experiance in your life? Tough eh? But if you could would you go back and change it? I wouldn't because then I wouldn't be who I am now, it would be losing a piece of me. Even then you would probably go through something similar because you wouldn't have learnt what you have now. That's what I mean.

Rather than that, I believe we create our own reality to a major extent.

I agree. Look at my sig witht he quote I made up. Kind of like yours, which I like.


Anyone else want to take me out of context? Haha jokes I don't blame yas.

 

[LostAndConfused]

Yeah this site really helps you grow as a man, but at the same time its easy to over-analyze stuff. I remember one poster mentioned Occam's razor which is explained here:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occam's_razor

Basically, it says that the simplest solution is the best one. While you *could* be right in evaluating everything (ie, you came off slightly too desperate, you didn't escalate soon enough so she LBJFed you, you didn't disarm her friends, ETC.), but it could simply boil down to the fact that you guys just don't work out together. Simple as that!

Your game actually could have been perfect, granted that everyone makes mistakes and that you can improve on them, but the girl simply felt that you were only good for a hookup and that you wouldn't make a good boyfriend for her. It doesn't mean that your an AFC, it just means that things didnt work out with THAT GIRL! Everyone's slightly different in their tastes, ya know?

I'm really beginning to think that you don't HAVE to be such a great success to get girls. Of course it helps, but if that were true, then why do we see so many "failures" who don't look that good but still score very attractive chicks? It can't be the fact that weed smoking is attractive! and thats just one example. Happy 4/20 by the way

Whenever I go off in the mall with my friends or even my parents, I see myself getting checked out by a good amount of attractive girls. And I think to myself, why don't I have them? And I realize its my own fault why I don't. We're the masters of our own destinies, if only we seize that power. It's surprising how this power has escaped me.

We do make our own reality. I'm working on fixing MINE...I really need to improve mine. Everyone should ask themself:

if your reality you as a player, or does it have you as the guy who analyzes EVERYONE ELSES game, and sits there wondering why you don't get girls?