"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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something wrong w/ the approach. But what?

DJ_in_making

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I was standing behind this fine girl on a line, 'what could I conversate w/ her about?' I thought.
Well, I guessed a simple compliment woulda been a good opener. So I tapped her and complimented her on her nails. She turned around and gave me an monotone, expressionless "thank you" I asked her if she just got them done. Without even facing me she just shook her head. I figured a little interest would've given me something to work w/ but no interest means 'forget about it'. So I left her alone. The question is was there any more effort I should have made (if so what), or did her lack of interest already mean back off?:confused:
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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baddfishh40

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Come on man.... You tapped her on the back to compliment her on her nails in a line...? Thats a little awkard and desperate, don't you think? Try bringing up something about the environment instead.
 

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She probably thought you were creepy, gay or both.

Don't go up to people just to compliment them. You have to be the upbeat person that everyone wants to talk to.

You gotta be the guy who always says funny stuff in the checkout line that everyone laughs at.

Until you understand the concept, STOP using compliments to start off conversations.
 

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Bro, its NYC No ones, upbeat and chatting w/ everyone around them. Have you ever seen a comedian at a check-out line?
The compliment opener is in the Don Juan bible, so u can't blame me for doing it. And can I have an example of something to say about the 'environment'? I'm at old navy's.
And what would a gay guy be doing flirting with a girl anyway?
 

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Well for starters,

When you get out of highschool you'll realize there's two types of people:

The winners and the losers.
What seperates the two is ATTITUDE.

I'm sorry you've never seen a happy peron in your life, it must be pretty depressing. :(

It's always good to know someone who is happier and more upbeat than you so you can try n' be your best.

My personal hero, is a vietnam vet who i work with. He is the most upbeat guy i know and one hell of a womanizer.

This guy can make the most cold-hearted b1tch smile.

I could give you a whole list of openers but what good what they do if you didn't have the personality to back them up?
You'd look kinda stupid wouldn't you if the girl said something back and you were shuffling through your print out of the best one liners.
The problem with giving you canned openers is that they WONT WORK.
You want a quick solution to your problem: Confidence in a bottle.

Have you ever seen a comedian at a check-out line?
I see em all the time.. people joke-ing around and having a good time. But hey, i live in chicago not jerk town USA.

Good luck man, remeber its about attitude. Even if you don't score the girl you like this week or month, at one point you'll meet that girl.

A positive attitude will EVENTUALLY land you the girl you want.

Losers whine about their loss, winners go home and fvck the prom queen.
 
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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