"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Something tricky: Dealing with language barriers

ersit

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If you are in her country, and neither of you speak one language or the other fluently, is it still possible to pick a girl up?

Say you speak enough to hold a basic conversation, or she understands enough that you can simplify things.

How about if she can understand the words you say, but misses the context and subtext.

Is it still possible to pick a girl up in these situations?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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ersit said:
If you are in her country, and neither of you speak one language or the other fluently, is it still possible to pick a girl up?

Say you speak enough to hold a basic conversation, or she understands enough that you can simplify things.

How about if she can understand the words you say, but misses the context and subtext.

Is it still possible to pick a girl up in these situations?
i guess u can use less chit chat and have a brief,meaningful kinda talk and things like kino would also help
 

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Kino makes sense. But have you ever tried to speak a language you weren't very good at and get your point across to someone, while being able to receive theirs? It's not easy. I've tried it, and often end up getting frustrated after going over the basics with people - where I'm from, what I study, where they're from, what they study, maybe even interests, etc. Brief, meaningful talk can be difficult.
 

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Absolutely. My friend and I recently visited Spain and hooked up with numerous chicks. Granted, it's a LOT harder to get ass abroad, partially because of the language barrier. However, you can still use social proof and body language to your advantage. Our Spanish is horrible, however we still approached girls speaking the best spanish we could. I think to them that showed a lot of confidence. Plus it made us appealing because we told them we're from CAlifornia:) However we did miserably in France, by far the hardest girls to get with there.

My advice: Don't stop trying! You're gonna get denied a lot, just roll with it and at the end it'll pay off! Also, try to learn the language the best you can, the more you can speak the better.
 
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