"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Something too many people on this site are missing.

BadNews

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Some of the threads popping up on the site lately make me cry at night. Bump in the hopes some more guys out there will make some changes in the way the approach life.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Great post man! Surprised (and not) that there is actually negative feedback to your idea.
 

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Disregard females -> Acquire currency
Acquire currency -> Acquire females
Therefore,

Disregard females = Acquire females

Boom
 

Deadly_Ripped

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Bodymassage, disregarding females doesn't not lead to acquiring currency.

Maybe you mean 'focus on your personal financial goals over all other pursuits -> acquire currency' and then the rest.
 

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Deadly_Ripped said:
Bodymassage, disregarding females doesn't not lead to acquiring currency.

Maybe you mean 'focus on your personal financial goals over all other pursuits -> acquire currency' and then the rest.

it was a joke. disregard females, acquire currency is an internet meme.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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thats what I hate, guys have to be comfortable and content with themselves, confident, have a life, have a passion and have a drive, but girls don't have to as long as they are a hot piece of meat
 

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Long time since I've been on the forums. Nice to still see some familiar faces offering advice for those that need it. I still believe creating your own life that you can be happy/satified with, THEN allowing people YOU choose to share your life in a way that YOU see fit, is the only way to TRUELY become "alpha."

Best of luck out there gentlemen!
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Great post, repped - Think this should be a stickied!
 

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giantmecharobotnerd said:
thats what I hate, guys have to be comfortable and content with themselves, confident, have a life, have a passion and have a drive, but girls don't have to as long as they are a hot piece of meat
but we did that though. we let pu$$y drop in quality while at the same time letting it's value increase because we let women set the price

if men as a whole were able to, for the sake of manhood, stand up to a hot woman and say "no, you're looks are not enough, you need more than that to attract a quality man", things would be different

but for every man who doesn't phase a woman, or refuses to play her games, there's another pu$$y beggar not too far behind that will be willing to put up with all her negative traits just because she has a vagina

and someone on the first page mentioned that some women are just as bad as afc guys are in handling relations with the opposite sex. totally.

some women are just bad at relationships. a lot of what's discussed on here talks about how we can improve our relationships with women, what WE'RE doing wrong. while i agree we can all use improvements in different areas, you cannot forgot the fact that sometimes no matter how good your game is or how good you think it is--some women just suck at dating. and if things go south between you and a woman, it's not always your fault.
 

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Thanks for bumping this thread. I was actually just recently thinking the same thing. Funny how I stumbled upon this.

Great post!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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BadNews said:
There is a lot of useful information on this site. Some of it is more useful than the rest, but generally this site gives a decent basis for guys who are poor with women to increase their success. There are however a few issues I have with A LOT of the information on this site. In my opinion, there is a lot of 'gimmicky' stuff, that while it may seem to give results and increase success, it is all smoke an mirrors and will only get you so far.

You need to focus on other aspects of your life. Take time for YOU, enrich YOUR life, and be happy with who YOU are! This is the only guaranteed way to build that confidence that SO many women crave. People on SS often refer to 'being the prize', and many guys use these 'gimmicks' to make themselves SEEM like the prize.

"But BadNews, just cause you're happy with who you are doesn't mean all women are automatically going to love you" you may be thinking. IT DOESN'T MATTER! It really doesn't. When you realize the VALUE that you have - what YOU have to offer the lucky girl YOU decide to persue - rejection is no longer an issue. If she isn't able to recognize the value you hold as a man, HER LOSS!

I urge everyone on this site to TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF! DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! FALL IN LOVE WITH WHO YOU ARE! This is the ONLY way to be happy and successful with women.

So get out there! Spin those plates: get that promotion, hang out with your buddies, go to the gym, spend time with your family, take up that hobby, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! And everything else will fall into place.

Best of luck guys!
I think your mindset is correct, but needs to be more specific.

There is nothing wrong with gimmicky stuff; tv shows, movie ads, large corporations and big banks use it all the time to get your business and attention. All that matters is that the customer (women) buys in.

Also, you fail to mention that you have to do things that women value in order to get anywhere with them.

You can't just do what you love and expect women to love you because you are good at it. You have to see what women value, and then go from there.
 

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Best post I've read on this site in a lonnnnnng time!

Couldn't agree more bro!






PIMP
 

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Good post and a mantra for anybody coming out of a painful breakup.
Focus on yourself rather than looking for a replacement.
Bettering oneself in a variety of ways makes us stronger and keeps us moving forward. I for one became lazy and lethargic in my last relationship. Now I'm finding that I actually like being my own person because of the more things in my life.

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Really been focusing on this mindset the past couple months - post breakup. It really works fellas. Be the best you can be in life, and truely value yourself as a man...the rest will fall into place.

Cheers
 

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WELL DONE!! If your not happy with your current situation in your life you will never be happy with more women in your life since they really are just icing on top anyway!!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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