BadNews
Senior Don Juan
There is a lot of useful information on this site. Some of it is more useful than the rest, but generally this site gives a decent basis for guys who are poor with women to increase their success. There are however a few issues I have with A LOT of the information on this site. In my opinion, there is a lot of 'gimmicky' stuff, that while it may seem to give results and increase success, it is all smoke an mirrors and will only get you so far.
For the most part, the information I am referring to, is stuff that is intended to give you an image of 'alpha', or make you feel like you're 'alpha'. Unfortunately for many guys here it is just a facade, and at the end of the day you're still the same insecure guy. When the going gets tough, and walls start to come down, these men are revealed for the person they really are; often having negative effects on the relationship they've been 'building' as well as their mental/emotional state.
I am a BIG believer in 'spinning plates'. However (as I've posted in a few different threads) I DO NOT BELIEVE PLATES SHOULD ONLY BE WOMEN! It is important to constantly be spinning plates - as we have all heard. The thing MANY guys miss: plates can be your friends, your career, a hobby, the gym, your family, ANYTHING that keeps you busy and occupied - and enhances your life! Too many guys here think spinning plates is only referring to women, they are DEAD WRONG! You need to focus on other aspects of your life. Take time for YOU, enrich YOUR life, and be happy with who YOU are! This is the only guaranteed way to build that confidence that SO many women crave. People on SS often refer to 'being the prize', and many guys use these 'gimmicks' to make themselves SEEM like the prize.
When you are happy with your life, and you are confident in who YOU are, you WILL BE the prize. Instead of 'acting' like you're the prize, you will understand your value, respect yourself, and naturally view yourself as the prize. Someone once made a post about looking for 'the one'. He hit the nail on the head when he said "YOU are the one". When you become truely happy with your life and the direction you're heading, becoming the desire of women requires no effort.
"But BadNews, just cause you're happy with who you are doesn't mean all women are automatically going to love you" you may be thinking. IT DOESN'T MATTER! It really doesn't. When you realize the VALUE that you have - what YOU have to offer the lucky girl YOU decide to persue - rejection is no longer an issue. If she isn't able to recognize the value you hold as a man, HER LOSS!
I urge everyone on this site to TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF! DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! FALL IN LOVE WITH WHO YOU ARE! This is the ONLY way to be happy and successful with women. This is the ONLY way to gain REAL CONFIDENCE in yourself! Smoke and mirrors may get you laid every now and then, but at the end of the day, your life is hardly better...and the success ISN'T EVEN COMPARABLE to your alternative (creating a better life, and being truely happy with who you are).
So get out there! Spin those plates: get that promotion, hang out with your buddies, go to the gym, spend time with your family, take up that hobby, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! And everything else will fall into place.
Best of luck guys!
For the most part, the information I am referring to, is stuff that is intended to give you an image of 'alpha', or make you feel like you're 'alpha'. Unfortunately for many guys here it is just a facade, and at the end of the day you're still the same insecure guy. When the going gets tough, and walls start to come down, these men are revealed for the person they really are; often having negative effects on the relationship they've been 'building' as well as their mental/emotional state.
I am a BIG believer in 'spinning plates'. However (as I've posted in a few different threads) I DO NOT BELIEVE PLATES SHOULD ONLY BE WOMEN! It is important to constantly be spinning plates - as we have all heard. The thing MANY guys miss: plates can be your friends, your career, a hobby, the gym, your family, ANYTHING that keeps you busy and occupied - and enhances your life! Too many guys here think spinning plates is only referring to women, they are DEAD WRONG! You need to focus on other aspects of your life. Take time for YOU, enrich YOUR life, and be happy with who YOU are! This is the only guaranteed way to build that confidence that SO many women crave. People on SS often refer to 'being the prize', and many guys use these 'gimmicks' to make themselves SEEM like the prize.
When you are happy with your life, and you are confident in who YOU are, you WILL BE the prize. Instead of 'acting' like you're the prize, you will understand your value, respect yourself, and naturally view yourself as the prize. Someone once made a post about looking for 'the one'. He hit the nail on the head when he said "YOU are the one". When you become truely happy with your life and the direction you're heading, becoming the desire of women requires no effort.
"But BadNews, just cause you're happy with who you are doesn't mean all women are automatically going to love you" you may be thinking. IT DOESN'T MATTER! It really doesn't. When you realize the VALUE that you have - what YOU have to offer the lucky girl YOU decide to persue - rejection is no longer an issue. If she isn't able to recognize the value you hold as a man, HER LOSS!
I urge everyone on this site to TAKE TIME FOR YOURSELF! DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! FALL IN LOVE WITH WHO YOU ARE! This is the ONLY way to be happy and successful with women. This is the ONLY way to gain REAL CONFIDENCE in yourself! Smoke and mirrors may get you laid every now and then, but at the end of the day, your life is hardly better...and the success ISN'T EVEN COMPARABLE to your alternative (creating a better life, and being truely happy with who you are).
So get out there! Spin those plates: get that promotion, hang out with your buddies, go to the gym, spend time with your family, take up that hobby, DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY! And everything else will fall into place.
Best of luck guys!