"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Something that happened a day ago

Comeback kid

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I tried to talk to a few girls the other day at school. And they just ignored me. Girl number one i said hi to while passing by, she was going up the stairs and i was coming down. She turned around and made some movement with her mouth like she was surprised(in a bad way) but no sound came out or anything. Then at the end of the day i decided to approach this puertorican girl i had my eye. She was standing with her friend who happened to be black and i usually avoid going for black girls at my school because they only go for ghetto guys. But she was standing with her so i had to appraoch them both. I tried to talk to them. (I asked them if i would look bad with a face tatoo, i tried this line on some other girl and it seemed to work well so idk). But the girl just looked for a second and turned away and the black girl kept saying "umm" but never said anything. I don't know what im doing wrong but if i am i would like to know.

Another problem is these rejections are starting to stack up and i go to a small school. I already approached lots of girls. Should I stop approaching girls there, because if things keep going this way by the time i get a date, 80 percent of the girls in the school will have rejected me. And that status probably won't help me.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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ToZe

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i dont know, but maybe the way you're speaking might be the problem, maybe you aren't saying it as confidently to them and it would probably sound wierd to those girls
 

619joe

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Dude if your messing up that much,dont keep going around to girls.Infact I dont even try that and my HS is huge...

Listen man dont use these stupid lines or opinions man.In HS just use a situational opener and thats all you need man dont over stress it.

Lets say your in the library and some chick is doing homework,bull**** a little and ask if shes good with such and such and ask for some help.

Why are you taking your chance at rejection?Why not say whatever is on your mind and go with the situation INSTEAD of wondering whether shes gonna blow you off or go along with your little line?If you say whats on your mind and atleast deliver interestingly enough and not sound like a ****,you wont mess up.Plus if she blows you off for whatever reason it shouldnt matter cause you werent "picking her up"
 

Bible_Belt

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Should I stop approaching girls (?)

Try working on your skills at spotting IOI in the girls you are around. Girls who you catch looking at you, who laugh too much at your jokes, twirl their hair and fidget when you talk to them, initiate physical contact in any way, typically horseplay, or find an excuse to be around you outside of school - these are the girls who already like you, and they're not going to ignore you when you talk to them. Will they be cheerleaders and homecoming queens? No, they won't, but you have to start somewhere. The girls who already like you are the paths of least resistance. Then other women see you with them, making them suddenly interested, and you gradually keep upgrading to a more attractive girl each time you next one and change GFs.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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