Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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white cloud 8

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Hi,

Over the last little while my friends bug me about being the "b*tch" in the relationship with my girlfriend, and how she "trapped" me (BEFORE she left for her European trip last fall for two and a half months) we became a couple. I could see that she did indeed "trap" me (I guess she knows the game better than she thinks). She is older (27) and I am 21. I don't know, my friends bugging me about these things sort of annoys me (or are they just joking around?) I can't tell sometimes. I guess they think I can't hold my own in my relationship.

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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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md3sign

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If your friends are telling you that they're probably right. Honestly ask yourself though - are you truly happy with how things are going? Remember happyness does NOT = comfort. That is, are you in your ideal relationship right now? Are YOU in control? Kinda hard to understand what you mean by trap without more details.
 

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md3sign said:
If your friends are telling you that they're probably right. Honestly ask yourself though - are you truly happy with how things are going? Remember happyness does NOT = comfort. That is, are you in your ideal relationship right now? Are YOU in control? Kinda hard to understand what you mean by trap without more details.

I think what they mean by "trap" is that I was locked into a relationship *BEFORE* she left for two and a half months to Europe, when I could have just said "Oh, we'll talk about it when you get back". That would have been better I think (could have had freedom..lol). When I think about it though, it was a good "trap" because I am happy to say things are going great with her thus far.

**I made it clear to her as well that I will not tolerate disrespect from anyone, including her and that I would drop her if she started to.**
 
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