"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Something I've realized

starplayer

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This is something I realized a year or so ago but I thought I would mention it on here because I’ve been thinking about it recently.

Basically, despite all the people that say the media is totally pushing the nice guy myth, I’ve noticed that actually there’s a lot of truth in the media.

One really obvious example is the music industry. Listen to some of the sh!t on the radio. I don’t mean the stuff written by whiney guys about how great a girl is. I mean listen to the stuff written BY WOMEN about a guy, where they express their emotions. Loads of mainstream pop music by women actually reveals the truth.

The message I hear in their songs again and again is along the lines of:
“All that matters are my feelings for you. I don’t care about why I feel this way. I can’t control them and they override everything else. I hate that you’re a jerk but how I feel is the most important thing, etc. etc”.

(Just to add, this isn’t my favorite choice of music lol, but I end up listening to the radio a lot)

Not only that but sometimes they actually admit they like being treated badly just to feel something! I also see it in movies and TV shows where the truth is in plain sight, but this is not as common.

The answer is right under the noses of the nice guys but they can’t see it. I admit it all seems so obvious to me now but I never thought about it a couple of years ago.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PapiChulo

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That makes sense, and is pretty universal with both genders.

I feel a lot of sexual attraction for the "biitch" type myself, even with the ones that treated me badly, or down right despised me. That's provided that they have OK looks, I feel extremely turned on around such women, which makes that much more exciting. One thing is that it's short-lived and that allure about them disappears after you get to know them better (but the sexual thing is through the roof....).

The "biitch" is just a female counterpart of the "jerk"
 
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