"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Something I've realized

starplayer

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This is something I realized a year or so ago but I thought I would mention it on here because I’ve been thinking about it recently.

Basically, despite all the people that say the media is totally pushing the nice guy myth, I’ve noticed that actually there’s a lot of truth in the media.

One really obvious example is the music industry. Listen to some of the sh!t on the radio. I don’t mean the stuff written by whiney guys about how great a girl is. I mean listen to the stuff written BY WOMEN about a guy, where they express their emotions. Loads of mainstream pop music by women actually reveals the truth.

The message I hear in their songs again and again is along the lines of:
“All that matters are my feelings for you. I don’t care about why I feel this way. I can’t control them and they override everything else. I hate that you’re a jerk but how I feel is the most important thing, etc. etc”.

(Just to add, this isn’t my favorite choice of music lol, but I end up listening to the radio a lot)

Not only that but sometimes they actually admit they like being treated badly just to feel something! I also see it in movies and TV shows where the truth is in plain sight, but this is not as common.

The answer is right under the noses of the nice guys but they can’t see it. I admit it all seems so obvious to me now but I never thought about it a couple of years ago.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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PapiChulo

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That makes sense, and is pretty universal with both genders.

I feel a lot of sexual attraction for the "biitch" type myself, even with the ones that treated me badly, or down right despised me. That's provided that they have OK looks, I feel extremely turned on around such women, which makes that much more exciting. One thing is that it's short-lived and that allure about them disappears after you get to know them better (but the sexual thing is through the roof....).

The "biitch" is just a female counterpart of the "jerk"
 
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