Something intersting I've learned about looks. Not just another "Looks" thread

[Mistic]

At one point I was married to a beautiful woman. She had a touch of almost every nationality. Like the lyrics from that song, "her face was a map of the world." Very exquisite.

Unfortunately her attitude was much less appealing than her looks. She was a very unhappy, angry person.

Something I noticed during our relationship was how her inner ugliness began to reflect and consume her ******d appearance. Overtime I watched her devolve into a very unattractive person. That was when I realized that looks really aren't more important that what is being projected internally. I'll give you another example.

Today I had a conversation about this with a girl I have been hanging with. She related the many boyfriends who she has had who were models. Great looking guys who were ripped, clean, and chiseled, but empty inside.

She was attracted to these guys initially, but soon found herself very bored, as they had no depth of character. They were just empty shells, as she put it.

Here is a major secret that many guys miss, esp, the good looking ones:

Women want to be challenged on many levels. They want an interesting, dynamic man who will push them into new realms of thought and experience. They need this, and it far supersedes looks, esp. in the long run. The superficial good looking guy might get to fvck her a few times, but that is it. He has nothing backing up his looks.

Now even if you only want to fvck her a few times, it is far better to leave her still wanting you, than being bored and all through with you

Intelligence, maturity, and depth of character are some of the most important qualities you can have. And the great thing is, anyone can gain them.

We've all heard the cliche' saying, "beauty is only skin deep." Well, there is some definite truth to that statement.

 

[Wodan]

At one point I was married to a beautiful woman. She had a touch of almost every nationality. Like the lyrics from that song, "her face was a map of the world." Very exquisite.

Unfortunately her attitude was much less appealing than her looks. She was a very unhappy, angry person.

Something I noticed during our relationship was how her inner ugliness began to reflect and consume her ******d appearance. Overtime I watched her devolve into a very unattractive person. That was when I realized that looks really aren't more important that what is being projected internally. I'll give you another example.

Today I had a conversation about this with a girl I have been hanging with. She related the many boyfriends who she has had who were models. Great looking guys who were ripped, clean, and chiseled, but empty inside.

She was attracted to these guys initially, but soon found herself very bored, as they had no depth of character. They were just empty shells, as she put it.

Here is a major secret that many guys miss, esp, the good looking ones:

Women want to be challenged on many levels. They want an interesting, dynamic man who will push them into new realms of thought and experience. They need this, and it far supersedes looks, esp. in the long run. The superficial good looking guy might get to fvck her a few times, but that is it. He has nothing backing up his looks.

Now even if you only want to fvck her a few times, it is far better to leave her still wanting you, than being bored and all through with you

Intelligence, maturity, and depth of character are some of the most important qualities you can have. And the great thing is, anyone can gain them.

We've all heard the cliche' saying, "beauty is only skin deep." Well, there is some definite truth to that statement.

Yeah but at the same time looking good says alot, a man with perfect skin is obviously cleaner than a man withought. I think it shows that a man is considerate if he puts an effort into his appearence, i mean at the end of the day women have alot more superficial stuff they can do than men, I think its harsh how a man can work very hard to make himself alot more attractive and then be branded as shallow and empty, were all shallow, theres not one man that will pick an ugly woman IF he can get a good looking woman, lets be realistic. sure its useful longterm but you can get another woman when her looks fade.

 

[SickAgain]

I think the moral of the story is that you need to play both sides are the card correctly. You have to be great inside and out. Out in the short run, inside in the long run.

 

[Drumstick]

Yeah but at the same time looking good says alot, a man with perfect skin is obviously cleaner than a man withought. I think it shows that a man is considerate if he puts an effort into his appearence, i mean at the end of the day women have alot more superficial stuff they can do than men, I think its harsh how a man can work very hard to make himself alot more attractive and then be branded as shallow and empty, were all shallow, theres not one man that will pick an ugly woman IF he can get a good looking woman, lets be realistic. sure its useful longterm but you can get another woman when her looks fade.

I think that it only shows for sure that you are considerate about your appearance. Its important to take care of yourself, and your appearance is part of that, but its important not to stop there. Remember, these model guys took great care of their appearance, but did not take care of their mentality. Taking care of your appearance give the appearance of being considerate doesn't work, you need to actually be considerate. I don't think looking good says as much as a lot of people say. Looking good is looking good, which is important, but not neccesarily as important as being good. I think that looking good and being good are two different but sometimes interrelated things.

I think its important to maintain appearance, but that your being, or "inner game" is ultimately more important and that they arn't always reflective of one another.