"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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so in the summer i finally grasped this concept and began really confident, not giving a **** about what others thought and the true me showed . i was having the time of my life.. however something happened and i went back to my old ways and kept thinking.. " what did i do to get that confidence i had in the summer"
Then it came to me
In the summer i would consciously push myself out of my comfort zone in every possible situation. Well, sometimes i would wuss out, but I kept pushing my comfort zone. I was doing crazy things, talking to people, and taking chances. I would force myself to feel uncomfortable but after I did whatever I forced myself to do i would feel great and have a little more confidence! after a little while my comfort zone was much bigger and i felt that things such as talking to girls were much easier! I made plans to push my comfort zone farrr farrrrr away so that i would be unstoppable but i had an accident (and am finally better).

so i'm going to restart where i left off.
Guys, all you have to do is force yourself to do things that scare you, consistently, even if it doesnt relate to women, and the confidence will soon come to you as it did and will come again to me.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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from your post maybe i shold try public speaking. i am afraid to death of it and if i became good at it, i'd probably have he most confidence in the world.
 
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rapidfire said:
from your post maybe i shold try public speaking. i am afraid to death of it and if i became good at it, i'd probably have he most confidence in the world.
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yeah man, go for it
a few years ago i used to be terrified of it
now when i get the opportunity i jump to the chance to do it
i still get a little nervous but its not a big deal

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I kind of wrote this just to clarify my thoughts. a lot of times i have ideas running around in my mind and if I don't write them down i lose the idea.
 
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I second that too. Public speaking sucks at first, but once you get over the fear its a rush and it improves your social skills.
 
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