Something I don't understand about success

[Furyguy]

The women I treat the worst are the ones that are into me the most. I don't understand it. I am a complete dick, I am an a$$shole, a jerk, I tell them to do things for me and give them nothing in return. And then they come back asking for more.

What the hell? They're not fatties or uglies, either, and they have other options besides me. I'm not usually an a$$shole. Just on some occasions I'll be thinking "Man, I was such a douchebag to that girl last night" only to have them asking ME out later in the week.

I'm trying to figure out if there's some other correlating factor here. So far, this has only happened with girls I legitimately have zero interest in, about 4 or 5 times the past couple months. I'm almost to the point of trying to use this on a girl I really DO like, but I don't know if I have the strength for that yet... I'm scared of ****ing up and actually hurting her. I'm also scared it'll work and I'll have to live out that facade or she'll lose interest.

I'm new to the game, enlighten me fellas.

 

[eko]

Dude, no girl wants to be treated like crap. Get the jerk mentality out of your head that you need to be like that in order to succeed because you don't. All you need to do is be your own man. You know what attractive qualities are - direction, assertiveness, etc. A quality woman won't tolerate you being a jerk to her.

 

[Desert Fox]

yeah I noticed this too.

These girls all turn out to have self-esteem daddy issues and want approval. since I, just an average looking guy is not giving them approval and constantly make fun of them, they come begging for my attention and approval.

Kinda like my dog.

 

[MoveYourAss...]

Try it on the ones you're interested in. A BIT - SOMETIMES. That's enough. Maybe in a way she does not immediately know if your joking or not.

I agree with eko about the quality ones, at least what I understand as quality. They also see / feel through it.

A certain assertiveness is a must have, the *******-part, well... just the easiest way to fake it.

Maybe the thread-title is answered as follows:

Success and skills come with responsibility. Use your skills wisely, the dark stuff only when necessary, like self-defence.

 

[Furyguy]

I agree with eko about the quality ones, at least what I understand as quality. They also see / feel through it.

That's a good point, it's probably why I wasn't ever interested in them in the first place.

Thanks for the input.

 

[WC2]

Do you ever feel attracted to women who don't give you the time of day?

I bet you have.

Women don't want jerks, but they want men who come at them in a different way. They don't want a chump who offers compliments and services-- they want a man who offers fun and direction.

When you say you treat women like sh!t I think you really mean you don't CATER to their every need. You don't hang on every word they say. You turn down hanging out with them when you don't feel like it.

This is not being a jerk, it is being a man. Women want men. Nuff' said.