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[Knight1994]

Okey, so lately a girl i know has started to act weird. Up until about three weeks ago she used to instant message me very often or reply fast. And the writing style of the messages was also kind with a lot of emoticons. But since about the middle of the december things have gone bad. Her text`s style has changed to i dont know exactly the word in english but like cruel or i dont give a damn. And well for the last four days i haven`t heard a single word from her. Tryd to call her late at almost midnight yesterday and she didn`t answer the phone. You probably ask why so late, well because she has to be at work until 11pm. Well the last instant message that she sent said that let`S just not speak today and that was on saturday. I don´t absolutely know what should i do ? About a week ago when, i went to see her to give her a christmas present, she was very happy and showd the usual signs that the girls do when they feel attraction towards a guy like played with her hair often, avoided eye contact and checked her phone often for no reason. Well maybe it could be something about the fact that i told to one of her bestfriends that i have feelings towards her and since her bestfriend last went to see him talked about it although she promised not to. So should i wait for her to get back in contact with me or should i move on ? Or something else that will help ?

And sorry for bad engliseh, not my native language

 

[devilkingx2]

in person matters more than over text, wait until you see her

also women are weird, there's a million reasons she could act the way she is, not enough info yet.

maybe she thinks you're not interested because you took too long to make move/didn't escalate?

idk, wait until you see her before jumping to any conclusions or making any decisions

 

[Knight1994]

Well lately she said that she has a lot of problems with life general.. We'll she has not contacted me lately. She didn't even ask yesterday what did I want. And also yesterday she tweeted about rest in peace my darling , the saddest New Year's Eve ever. So today I left her a message telling happy new year and that she should get in contact with me because I have something important to say. We'll she definently is a tough girl and she Dosent say what bothers her. But I will keep you updated and in the mean time you could also discuss here how we can change this situation.

 

[devilkingx2]

well then it sounds like you didn't do anything(huzzah! lucky you), just give her some space/time.

 

[Knight1994]

well then it sounds like you didn't do anything(huzzah! lucky you), just give her some space/time.

So how much time and space should I give her ? It is quite difficult to keep out of touch because we go to the same school and see each other few times every day. Saturday I made a surprise visit to her and she said that she does not want to see anybody. Something serious has definently happen but she does not wanna talk about it to me . Should I just leave her alone with her problem or should I try to get the info out of her what has happened ? Or would it be best for me to want until she starts contacting me again ?

 

[ArmyBoyATC]

Drop her. She was happy because you were gifting her.

I'm not a fan of no eye contact. Seems "untrustworthy" to me.

I'm not a fan of the phone checking. Says you're not important or not as important as something else she has goin on.

Next time I saw her and she acted all nice and happy, I'd end the convo with "you have my number, call me" if she does then she is interested, if she doesn't well you have ur answer.

 

[ArmyBoyATC]

You might also try "running into her" while you're with another girl. Lets her know you have other options. I use this all the time.

 

[Knight1994]

Drop her. She was happy because you were gifting her.

I'm not a fan of no eye contact. Seems "untrustworthy" to me.

I'm not a fan of the phone checking. Says you're not important or not as important as something else she has goin on.

Next time I saw her and she acted all nice and happy, I'd end the convo with "you have my number, call me" if she does then she is interested, if she doesn't well you have ur answer.

I dont thing this has anything to do with gifting, because she has changed a lot and we'll she seems to be keeping everything to her self and very unsocial. Today saw her with two of her girls and they were quite separated from other people sitting on the other end of the hall. Also she is a very emotional girl and you don't see no happiness from her face at anytime. In the group she was quite and texting on her phone while not taking part in the discussion the other girls had. Basically she seems lonely, and mentiond yesterday on twitter something about Saturday and that she Dosent know how she would emotionally live to the day. Saw her a few times today in school, we didn't say a word even hi .

 

[Knight1994]

Some people say that I should write to her on Facebook and see how she is managing everything other people say that I should leave her alone right now and not contact him because it would make me look like desperate to be a good guy and with that I will mess up my changes so guys what should i do right now i am confused?

 

[gravityeyelids]

showd the usual signs that the girls do when they feel attraction towards a guy like played with her hair often, avoided eye contact and checked her phone often for no reason

The last two arent necessarily signs of attraction (IOI's). They're usually signs of disinterest. However, if shes in high school, like you, she might just be very shy.

Either way, you should NEVER tell a girl or her friends directly how you feel about her. Always keep her guessing. And you should have made some type of move earlier. She was talking to you for a while because she felt some type of attraction and was waiting for you to make some type of move (asking her out). When you didn't, she lost interest and started to ignore you.

DON'T give presents to a girl you aren't already sleeping with. EVER. I'm serious. FRIENDS and Boyfriend/Girlfriend's give each other present. What a present is saying is that you value her more than she values you and you are trying to "buy" her affection/sexual attention. Sure, she'll be more than happy to accept the present. What girl doesn't like presents from chumps? But don't take that as a sign that you're getting any closer to getting her panties off.

Honestly: move on. You kind of already messed it up. Don't contact her anymore. I'm serious. I'm not saying ignore her. You see her a few times a day you said....that's fine. Just say hello or "what's up" and KEEP WALKING. Don't try to chat her up or find out what's wrong. Make her wonder. If she asks you or tries to chat, then fine. Talk to her, be polite. Don't show any interest, and give her short, simple responses, and then say you've got to get going.

 

[Knight1994]

Well asked her out on a date and she replyed via SMS : " I already told you, that I don't want any relationship. It is sad that you don't understand that and maybe it would be best for us to end communicating, because it seems that it makes it more worse ! "

So I quests this is it , move on ?

 

[Knight1994]

Do you really have to ignore later ? I mean i am an strong personality and i Will move on to next women, but since we had a good friendship and lots in common, I think that I shouden't break of contact completely but change my goal to somehow getting back our friendship. I was pushy and thought asking her out in her current situation might make her feel better but, it just but more stress on her. So I am thinking, that I will leave her right now alone, go out meet other girls and later maybe after a month or so try to slowly start gaining her communication interest back not ofc if she completely says no that she Dosent want to communicate anymore, but in this message it was a maybe. So I think I should start keeping a diary or something here so you guys can follow my progress with dating girls and maybe getting a friend back

 

[devilkingx2]

Do you really have to ignore later ? I mean i am an strong personality and i Will move on to next women, but since we had a good friendship and lots in common, I think that I shouden't break of contact completely but change my goal to somehow getting back our friendship. I was pushy and thought asking her out in her current situation might make her feel better but, it just but more stress on her. So I am thinking, that I will leave her right now alone, go out meet other girls and later maybe after a month or so try to slowly start gaining her communication interest back not ofc if she completely says no that she Dosent want to communicate anymore, but in this message it was a maybe. So I think I should start keeping a diary or something here so you guys can follow my progress with dating girls and maybe getting a friend back

it sounds like her last message to you was "f*** off"

what friendship?

 

[Alvafe]

Do you really have to ignore later ? I mean i am an strong personality and i Will move on to next women, but since we had a good friendship and lots in common, I think that I shouden't break of contact completely but change my goal to somehow getting back our friendship. I was pushy and thought asking her out in her current situation might make her feel better but, it just but more stress on her. So I am thinking, that I will leave her right now alone, go out meet other girls and later maybe after a month or so try to slowly start gaining her communication interest back not ofc if she completely says no that she Dosent want to communicate anymore, but in this message it was a maybe. So I think I should start keeping a diary or something here so you guys can follow my progress with dating girls and maybe getting a friend back

girl like this are bad friends, they will never really want to her you, will never help you, every once in a blue moon she will do something half hearted jsut to say you are friends, she will never help you get together with her friends, she could even make it worse.

dude if anything let her do all the work to get together and being friendly, you shouldn't lose your time on this, and trust me on this I had experience on this, and best thing I did was cut the cord.

 

[Knight1994]

Finally got over this rejection stuff. It really helps a lot to do some other activitys during this hard period after getting rejected to get your taughtd elsewhere. I started slowly to secure my future by starting to work on my internet business thought which should bring me a very high income in the future and also helped a lot to get my thoughts elsewhere. I really don't know what is wrong with this chick there have been lately some strange events by her. First of all, it looks like she turned down and a majority of her guy friends for very small reasons like one guy did a innocent joke and she really took it seriously and before that he was her best friend and as she said the only human she likes other then that she said she hated humans. Also the chick seems to be stalking me and likening my old answers on ask.fm, doing screenshots of my snapchats, using the petting name I cave her,starring at me sometimes when she thinks that I don't see her etc... Well I have not contacted her for a month now and fully ignored her everywhere and acted like I don't know her when we happened to be waiting for the bus in the bus stop and so on. I presume I am doing everything right?

 

[JohnChops]

Finally got over this rejection stuff. It really helps a lot to do some other activitys during this hard period after getting rejected to get your taughtd elsewhere. I started slowly to secure my future by starting to work on my internet business thought which should bring me a very high income in the future and also helped a lot to get my thoughts elsewhere. I really don't know what is wrong with this chick there have been lately some strange events by her. First of all, it looks like she turned down and a majority of her guy friends for very small reasons like one guy did a innocent joke and she really took it seriously and before that he was her best friend and as she said the only human she likes other then that she said she hated humans. Also the chick seems to be stalking me and likening my old answers on ask.fm, doing screenshots of my snapchats, using the petting name I cave her,starring at me sometimes when she thinks that I don't see her etc... Well I have not contacted her for a month now and fully ignored her everywhere and acted like I don't know her when we happened to be waiting for the bus in the bus stop and so on. I presume I am doing everything right?

yeah but this chick sounds mental, do you really want to hit that? then if she stalks you know, just wait till you blow her mind and her pvssy. :nervous: . just hit it an quit it my friend.