"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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somethimg I literally just thought of

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Please excuse any flaws as it is off the top of my head
A way convo goes

Me: Hey,Have you got a light?
[2 answers here so ill do both]
Her: No sorry,I don't smoke
Me:Neither do I this is just a prop I use as a pickup tool,I'm Tim [Holds out hand for handshake]
Her:yadda yadda
so yeah whatever from there

or
Her:yeah sure
Me:Thanks, I'm Tim...who might you be?
or something along those lines
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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the "you gotta light?" thing works if you are a smoker,
if you are not a smoker, it doesn't blow over that well.
that is just my opinion.

could you ask for the time instead?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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penkitten said:
the "you gotta light?" thing works if you are a smoker,
if you are not a smoker, it doesn't blow over that well.
that is just my opinion.

could you ask for the time instead?
yay someone serious:up:
I did think of that but i thought it was a bit cliche (not sure if i can get the accent on the e but meh]
 

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rottweiler_273 said:
Please excuse any flaws as it is off the top of my head
A way convo goes

Me: Hey,Have you got a light?
[2 answers here so ill do both]
Her: No sorry,I don't smoke
Me:Neither do I this is just a prop I use as a pickup tool,I'm Tim [Holds out hand for handshake]
Her:yadda yadda
so yeah whatever from there

or
Her:yeah sure
Me:Thanks, I'm Tim...who might you be?
or something along those lines

So what do you do when she pulls out the light and you have nothing to light?
 
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errm the fact that i said it had a flaw fair enough but i had a *prop* which would be a cigar seeing as i do smoke them occasionally cos i hate cigarettes with a passion
 

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You said you want opinions.

So stop disagreeing with everyone.

First off, do you really need a prop to speak to a woman??

I mean you have a basic opener of Hey do you have a light.. Thats so basic and non chalant, so hey let's use another basic one shall we?? Like hi, or I haven't seen you around here, whats your name.. anything like that!!!!

The reason I was giving you a hard time was because it astounds me that you sat there and put thought into an approach for a woman, and your approach was basically saying hey to her, which is a good approach lol

Thats like saying hm.. I have this awesome new technique that will help you walk, if you move one foot at a time..one in front of the other.. blah blah..

Stop thinking so damn hard, all of you.

It kills me, be like nike and just do it for christs sakes. You don't need props, you don't need to peacock and wear three watches, all you need is confidence and know how to create a fun comfortable atmosphere, and thats it..

By all means if you want to say hey and ask for a light, thats a great opener, sure, but maybe you're trying to hard.
 

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StoneColdFox said:
You said you want opinions.

So stop disagreeing with everyone.

First off, do you really need a prop to speak to a woman??

I mean you have a basic opener of Hey do you have a light.. Thats so basic and non chalant, so hey let's use another basic one shall we?? Like hi, or I haven't seen you around here, whats your name.. anything like that!!!!

The reason I was giving you a hard time was because it astounds me that you sat there and put thought into an approach for a woman, and your approach was basically saying hey to her, which is a good approach lol

Thats like saying hm.. I have this awesome new technique that will help you walk, if you move one foot at a time..one in front of the other.. blah blah..

Stop thinking so damn hard, all of you.

It kills me, be like nike and just do it for christs sakes. You don't need props, you don't need to peacock and wear three watches, all you need is confidence and know how to create a fun comfortable atmosphere, and thats it..

By all means if you want to say hey and ask for a light, thats a great opener, sure, but maybe you're trying to hard.

L M A O
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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i read it somewhere..

this opebner is one of the best ways a girls open guys at a bar.. and dont seem predatory/slvtty about it...

you just have to capitalise on it
 

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I asked two chicks for a ciggarette, and a light once. They both had boyfriends. But they talked to me and my buddy for a little bit, then actually bought us some more ciggarettes. (We're both underage.) It was shweet.

Anyway. I wouldn't use that line unless you actually smoke.. otherwise you look like a dumbass.
 

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rottweiler_273 said:
i hate cigarettes with a passion
dear pup,
stop trying to attract smokers if you dislike it so much. you will thank me in the long run.
from long time smoker
 

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When he said he hates cigarettes he might just mean the taste of them. I smoke and there are some brands that I utterly dispise cos of taste, amber leaf being one of them. Tastes like feet *shudder*. But point is I don't dislike smoking, just the taste of some cigarettes.
 

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Plec07 said:
When he said he hates cigarettes he might just mean the taste of them. I smoke and there are some brands that I utterly dispise cos of taste, amber leaf being one of them. Tastes like feet *shudder*. But point is I don't dislike smoking, just the taste of some cigarettes.
there are some "make you gag" brands out there like tourney eewwww *gags
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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