"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Seeing as I do have some amount of things to tell on here and I would ofcourse love to get some comments on the mistakes I make, I've decided to start writing up my experiences.


I'll start off with last night. I first went to the movies with a few of my old best friends that I hadn't seen in a long time. The movie ruled, but my friends had to go home because they had to both get up at 4am (it was 12am when they left).
I walked to the center of the city. Around here there's one street with a whole sh!tload of clubs and bars in it so that's where everybody goes.
My brother works in one of the bars that has an entrance fee. After calling him a few times I got inside free (entrance ticket was €15). There was a big party in the honor of a certain movie, there were supposed to be some celebs there, so apparantly for that reason a lot of hot chicks came in. No celebs showed up though for as far as I know.

As I came in I just felt like the king of the world, so I started dancing with my brother there as well and in a matter of minutes there was a whole group of women around us. I wasn't quite "into it" yet, so I didn't feel like approaching and dancing with any of the girls. Stupid me.

I then went to the bar, where I saw a HB9.8 that I had once worked for some time ago. She dug me back then, found me entertaining and fun to be around but didn't really seem to be all that interested. I talked to her about her product and stuff. She didn't seem uninterested but I wasn't getting a vibe from her.

Then I went to another room and saw a girl I had met earlier that day in the gym. I had a pretty cool conversation with her, but I accidentally turned the topic into a grim outlook into the future, which pretty much ended the convo. When I think back of it, she told me and my brother she was pregnant when I met her at the gym :eek: .

Then I went to yet another room and talked to some other girl that was very fine looking and that I had straight eyecontact with while walking by. Nothing came out of it, she had a very b!tchy personality right from the start so I just reacted like "Whatever, you're not worth the effort."

Another girl I was talking to I wasn't interested in in the beginning, but she was interested in me. When I started to notice, I got ****blocked horribly by some guy (something this guy had obviously done before because he was in in about 4 seconds)...

I managed to fvck up almost all of the conversations - I really need to figure out why my conversations keep on running dead after a few minutes. The initial, physical attraction is almost always there, but after that I begin to fall apart, which is rather annoying.

I really need to figure out what it is I'm doing to mess things up - I've been working at it for a while now but I'm hardly making progress except in the fields of self-confidence and approaching.

I also watched a guy and a girl from the sidelines while they were dancing. Definitely learnt something from them just by watching - the guy just turned the dance into a game and the girl was seriously eating it up.

After that (4am) we went to my brother's place, fell into bed right away... got a call, somebody wanted to start baking pancakes, so we invited them over. I was already pretty tired/wasted but felt pretty good after a few pancakes. There was a girl there too, she was constantly looking for my attention but I really didn't feel like giving it to her. Every now and then I'd just look her straight into her eyes for a few seconds. She fed me a few pieces of pancake, I fed her some but I was unable to actually say a decent sentence. After 9 pancakes and 3 joints it was 7:30, so everybody decided to go home, including myself. I was feeling more relaxed towards the end but that didn't seem to matter, I was physically too far gone.


I'm going out again tonight, but not to meet up with girls. I intend for it to be a "night out with the guys" instead. I feel like my head is ready to explode anyway.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've already figured out what was wrong with them. I basically didn't really feel all that interested in the girl I was talking to, I was just practicing skills instead.
Wrong mental state, but I'm working on that now.

Another flaw was that I kept on leaning towards the negative subjects of conversation. I don't really know why that happens, to be honest. It's like my subconcious plays games with me and turns everything into a big negative, while I was feeling positive before.

It's rather difficult to reproduce the conversation since it's been 3 days now, and I was somewhat intoxicated at the time.

If I still fvck up the convo's next time, I'll remember to post here with more detail.
 

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I feel like reminiscing of my first few nights out on the town with the DJ mindset, several months ago.

I remember feeling quite unhappy with who I was, but having just improved myself humongously in many ways. Stopped doing drugs, stopped smoking, stopped jerking off 5 times a day, etc...

Friday
First off, I went to my brother's place. He's been known to be a player to a lot of people but hasn't had any luck in his relationships because he keeps on turning into an AFC.
When I came there, he was sitting there, depressed, somewhat sick, etc. So I start cheering him up, telling him a lot of things I'd been doing and telling him to be a bit more optimistic about it all! He was in total shock about my newfound attitude and slowly converted into the mindset I had back then.

So, we went to the city for some partying. First we went to a club he used to work at, and started chatting to some girls at the bar. He took the short girl (HB7) I took the medium sized girl (HB7.5) and we both started flirting our asses off.
I was flirting with the girl behind the bar, having fun with her, just talking to her and letting her tell about herself. She was quite intrigued by my odd behaviour, but that didn't matter because she had to work and wasn't getting off until 5:30 (1:30 hour after everything closes).
Now, these girls had been pouring us free drinks all night. So, by the time we left we both had enough alcohol in our blood to kill a donkey.
We stumbled onto the street and looked around. After about 100 meter, we found another reasonable club to go to. We went in, ordered a beer.
I saw a girl (HB9), she gave me eyecontact, I walked up to the girl, started dancing, started kissing, totally overtaking her, got my hands into her pants while we were dancing.
And then I left :D
I heard afterwards that the girl was looking for me, and I saw her a week ago while I was too stoned/drunk to talk to her and she still had this "longing" look in her eyes.
We stumbled home, WAY too drunk and fell in bed just like that.

Saturday
I had just made several geek friends a week earlier that always went out to the place where all the weird people come on saturday ;) (I still go there every week, as does almost everybody I know).
So, I came there, feeling very optimistic about everything and just feeling on top of the world. There were two girls there, a HB6 and a HB7 (The five was a potential 8 if she lost some weight). So, I start talking to everybody there, just having fun. I was dominating the conversation most of the time, but people were enjoying it, esspecially the girls.
The HB7 was a little girl, completely covered in black clothing, with a very cute smile, that didn't say one word almost all night. So, feeling a bit provocative, I started talking to her. Telling her to open up, let her light shine, have fun, TALK FOR CHRIST'S SAKE! After a while she did and had a lot of fun. She looked like she had fallen completely in love with me ;).
This other guy who was there seemed to be a bit in to her, but kept on displaying all the typical AFC signs. I tried to coach him, but he still didn't get the idea.
After a few hours, we all went to a diner to eat some chicken wings with the group. As I came in, I had eyecontact with literally every girl there. I sat down, and a girl I had never met immediatly started talking to me about how her (male) friends were behaving like little children. I said something around the lines of "Yeah, well... everybody has to grow up once, don't they?". Then changed places. I got free pizza that night, free cigs, free chicken wings and a free drink (wtf? :p). After changing places, I knew I had total power over all the girls sitting there and they were totally into me, so I told the girl with the black clothes that she did have the whole "mystery" thing going for her, and that it did seem to work. I looked behind her, and this HB9.5 was looking for eyecontact with me and we kept eyecontact for about 15 seconds until she broke it off. It would've been impossible to approach due to the fact that there were 1000+ people in the diner that was designed for about 300 people.
After the diner, we all just went our seporate ways.

See? I have been able to be a master at it in the past, I've just lost my touch :D.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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