Someone smack some sense into me.. next right?

[Scars]

Brief history: This girl and I were on the verge of dating. Anytime she brought up dating I kind of shrugged it off. She didn't think I was "serious" and then ended up ****ing the drummer to my band one night while I was drunk. Completely nexted her ass on the spot. Some how we started talking again. She cried her eyes and heart out to me, saying she cared about me and even dropped the L bomb, said if she could she would take it all back. We talked for a good 3 more weeks and then some how ended up dating. Everything was good up until today. Drummer came and picked us up. Was kind of an awkward situation from the start, but I let the situation go a long time ago sense we both were technically single. Started noticing she was acting different whenever my drummer was around. Wouldn't touch me at all (which is extremely weird because she is the most clingy girl I have ever been with) and wouldn't even act like we were dating pretty much unless he wasn't looking.

When we went to take her home she like leaned in for a kiss, and I just turned my head and pretty much denied her. She texted me afterward saying I hurt her feelings and I told her I fealt she didn't deserve one. She asked why and I just called her out on everything. She was like you know I like you blah blah. And I told her that it doesn't really matter how much she tells me she likes me, and that she could still like other people and be out doing other **** and I told her that I'm not an idiot and not to take me for one. She was basically like well you either don't treat me like **** or we're done. And I didn't write her back after that. 20 mins later she sent another one with So....? And I still never wrote back. Like 5 hours later I wrote her and said "I just needed some time to think. You can't put me on the spot like that." no reply. Wrote her again a bit after that and said "When you're done ignoring me you should give me a call." no reply, and no call. If/when she does manage to hit me up again should I just break it off. I have a feeling she's going to go and act like a ho tonight, and then try and make things up tomorrow after she's ****ed some dude and I'm not down with that. So yeah. I don't know why I'm stuck on her. I definitely should next her shouldn't I?

 

[falcon814]

Man you were doing so good until...""When you're done ignoring me you should give me a call." "


But yeah this girl seems unstable to me. Reply or no reply, i would next her for sure.

Seems like shes trying to use u and the drummer.

Next her bro.

 

[worship]

Sounds like a histrionic to me, so yes NEXT her unless you are clued up to her game.

And you did **** up by saying "When you're done ignoring me you should give me a call", but I guess it's better that you did **** up your chances.

Run!

 

[drak_ool]

seems like she nexted you...

You were going strong until "after she fvcked me friend while I was seeing her, I started dating her" WTF dude?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Brief history: This girl and I were on the verge of dating. Anytime she brought up dating I kind of shrugged it off. She didn't think I was "serious" and then ended up ****ing the drummer to my band one night while I was drunk.

Why'd you keep shrugging it off at this point?? You were obviously into her.....

Completely nexted her ass on the spot.

I love when guys say this.... If you had "completely" next'd her, she'd be dead to you, no contact ever again. You didn't NEXT her...you put her on the back-burner and any girl will chase when you go from giving her attention....to giving her nothing.

Some how we started talking again.

You wanted to talk to her as much as she wanted to talk to you....that's how.

She cried her eyes and heart out to me, saying she cared about me and even dropped the L bomb, said if she could she would take it all back.

Now this should have brought flying red flags to you...... She doesn't even know you and she's dropping the love card??? LOL You fell for the classic female "cry" method. At this point your letting your emotions cloud your judgement of the situation.


We talked for a good 3 more weeks and then some how ended up dating. Everything was good up until today. Drummer came and picked us up. Was kind of an awkward situation from the start, but I let the situation go a long time ago sense we both were technically single.

If you let the situation with the drummer go....then why are you acting all emotional over it??? All your showing her is that your insecure and that is not attractive period.

Started noticing she was acting different whenever my drummer was around. Wouldn't touch me at all (which is extremely weird because she is the most clingy girl I have ever been with) and wouldn't even act like we were dating pretty much unless he wasn't looking.

This is you letting your insecurities take over.... She's with you, she doesn't have to be all over you all the time. Your drummer knows you guys are dating.... he's your bro right?? So don't worry about it. Plus if you don't trust her, then why are you with her in the first place???

When we went to take her home she like leaned in for a kiss, and I just turned my head and pretty much denied her.

Stop being insecure!!!

She texted me afterward saying I hurt her feelings and I told her I fealt she didn't deserve one. She asked why and I just called her out on everything.

Again your only showing her how insecure you are...... she didn't do anything wrong, but your letting your emotions control your better judgement...

She was like you know I like you blah blah. And I told her that it doesn't really matter how much she tells me she likes me, and that she could still like other people and be out doing other **** and I told her that I'm not an idiot and not to take me for one.

Your blowing it with this chick.... she's gonna break up with your @ss.

She was basically like well you either don't treat me like **** or we're done. And I didn't write her back after that. 20 mins later she sent another one with So....? And I still never wrote back. Like 5 hours later I wrote her and said "I just needed some time to think. You can't put me on the spot like that." no reply. Wrote her again a bit after that and said "When you're done ignoring me you should give me a call." no reply, and no call. If/when she does manage to hit me up again should I just break it off. I have a feeling she's going to go and act like a ho tonight, and then try and make things up tomorrow after she's ****ed some dude and I'm not down with that. So yeah. I don't know why I'm stuck on her. I definitely should next her shouldn't I?

Dude, you totally acted like a insecure AFC!!! She fuvked the drummer when you guys weren't together. If that bothered you soooo much, you should've never started dating her.... just fuvked her and kept it casual. She's already searching for your replacement, your better off breaking up with her now if you want to fully get her back later.

PIMP

 

[Joe Stud]

IMO There is hope, as a FB. but can you keep her as just a "plate"? I mean if she's a HB, and you can keep from getting tooo emotionally involved. IF... she still persues you, "grant" her a date, get her buzzed, take her home and go down like James Brown on her. Make her scream... and see what she's gonna miss. Then, you can decide if she's worth it to put her in your stable, but (at least for now), only as a FB.

 

[Err0r]

pimp-sicle wrapped this up, good advice. Learn from this, next her, and use the knowledge for the next girl

 

[playerone]

DonS is right.

You shouldn't have called her out on everything in the first place, in my opinion. Doing that will only show her how much you care about this relationship, and your insecurities. You should've behaved like a man and not to try put the blame on her. Bottom line is, if you've done well to attract and seduce her, she wouldn't have done this to you. If she disrespects you, it shouldn't bother you one bit. You could continue finding other women, or cut off contact with this attention wh0re.

And definitely, you forgot all about phone game. You texted her saying you need some time to think about this, and she doesn't reply. You wait, not send another desperate text for her attention again. You went from being fully in control, to her having all the power over you.

In the meantime, while you can't do much about this, talk to other women and forget about this one until she texts you in desperation again.

 

[KontrollerX]

"I definitely should next her shouldn't I?"

Nah.

I think you should get back with her because you clearly enjoy chaos, drama and pain in your life.

Besides if you ditch her you're just going to go after or settle for another undesireable red flag piece of gutter trash anyway.

So again get back with the current girl.

You don't have the patience, backbone and courage to not settle.

Trash is easier to get with than a decent girl so stay with trash and be happy with what a defeated cowardly and lazy mindset produces.

Not even trying to insult you bro but fear, cowardice and comfortable complacency is what keeps guys in the dirt with the skanks instead of flying high with the angels.

A DJ ends up with only what he thinks he is worth.

 

[Scars]

Thanks guy. I'm actually glad you were brutally honest because I seriously needed a swift kick in the jaw. Completely cut her off from contacts and got two other plates spinning atm. I don't know why I was buggin so bad over this. I have no problem meeting, seducing, and sleeping with girls, I guess I just have a bad tendency of getting attached. I really need to work on my inner game, I'll admit it.