miniPIMPIN
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post a list of things to say when u hit akward silence. or if anyone knows any links that would help me that would be great.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
someone really needs to...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
There is no right thing to say when you get in those situations. The best advice I can give you, is to not hit awkward silences.
Conversation should flow naturally. If you're forcing it, then you're gonna hit a gap where nothing happens. My rule is to always ask questions that I want to answer. I'll ask her a question that I would want to answer, then after she responds, I will agree with what she said, and flip her answer into mine. (basically say the same exact thing she said in my own words)
That way, it seems like you're asking her questions about herself and not talking about yourself when in fact you're doing the exact opposite.
Next, tell stories. Whatever the situation is, tell a story about that situation that YOU have been in. If you tell someone elses story, it's not gonna be as funny and she won't feel associated with you.
Conversation should flow naturally. If you're forcing it, then you're gonna hit a gap where nothing happens. My rule is to always ask questions that I want to answer. I'll ask her a question that I would want to answer, then after she responds, I will agree with what she said, and flip her answer into mine. (basically say the same exact thing she said in my own words)
That way, it seems like you're asking her questions about herself and not talking about yourself when in fact you're doing the exact opposite.
Next, tell stories. Whatever the situation is, tell a story about that situation that YOU have been in. If you tell someone elses story, it's not gonna be as funny and she won't feel associated with you.
squirrels
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Don't feel like you HAVE to say anything. But it might be a good time for an activity transition. "Hey, let's do this!" Or if it's just a pickup (not a date), that's your time to get the digits and eject.miniPIMPIN said:
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
"Tell me a story."
kdnash82
Master Don Juan
So this one time I was banging this chick right....Francisco d'Anconia said:
Alright... quick story. Probably a "You had to be there" story, but I'll tell it anyway.
I use to be in the Marine Corps (enlisted). Well as being junior Marines we didn't have offices. Instead we had a big common area. So about 15 junior Marines would sit in this area and talk and b/s about any and everything. There wasn't a topic that couldn't be touched.
Every now and then, our superiors (officers) would come into the common area. Everyone would stop everything they were doing and look to the officer. Most times, the officer would say "At ease.. please carry on with whatever you guys were talking about"
I would always reply with "So this one time, I was ****ing this chick right...."
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I agree with squirrels, dont feel like you HAVE to say anything, but for the most part talk to her like you would a friend. Ask general questions and be comfortable, you're not on a interview with her so be relaxed and get to know eachother, and if you're just gettin her number make it as quick as possible and go!
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Everytime you hit an awkward silence, remember the Seinfeld episode where he says he hasn't kissed certain woman because he and she have really great conversations and they never hit awkward silences.
But on the next scene, they are talking. Next thing they hit an awkward silence and they kiss.
Really funny.
But on the next scene, they are talking. Next thing they hit an awkward silence and they kiss.
Really funny.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
"My dads gay..."
"do you prefer hip-hop or country?"
"My little sister has a new boyfriend... i think he is a punk, you think thats normal for me to be protective?"
"What size are you're tits?"
"..have you everrrrr had a lesbian experience?"
"I'm thinking of dying my hair blonde, what do you think?"
"I tend to get alot of dingleberrys, do you have any crack-hair? do you even know what a dingleberry is?"
"This awkward silence you have forced me into is really turning me on!"
"Have you ever been attracted to a cartoon character?" (the answer will always be yes)
"Do I have anything in my teeth?"
"you're amazing looking, your so hot looking that I bet you're feet are just butt ugly nasty looking... cause no one is perfect.. ewww just thinking of your feet is so nasty my mom might puke"
"My moms gay"
"My brothers gay"
"I want to go on a trip somehwhere.. recommend any good vacation spots?
"please sit on my face"
"I sometimes get this weird urge to slap a persons face... usually a girls"
"...so the other day I was wearing my manly G-String.. Backwards"
"Do you have a smoke... You nasty cancer patient"
"OMG do you smell that?.. jesus, I hope thats not coming from you"
"Do you have a friend named sally by chance?"
"I feel so good right now, I went on a huge hike yesterday. You ever feel your muscles ache but it just feels right for some reason?"
"I have a weird tendancy to drink pepto-bismol as a beverage"
"Yesterday I was chased by a pack of wild dogs... I narrowly escaped death because they started fvcking each other"
"ohhhh Fvck"
"fvck... you know what I just remebered? ....ARGHGHHHH FVCK"
"Goddammit fvck... **** you know what I just remembered... its a good thing you stopped talking finally so I could actually remember this... Fvck"
"oh fvck"
"fvck"
"Do you have any younger sisters?"
"How often do you have a bowel movement?"
"Are you're nipples like pepperonis or pennies?... really? let me see"
"I want to get a cute puppy, know of any breed that grow up slowly? I love that puppy stage"
"ooh fvck sh!t"
"what day is it?"
"....hmmm well. this. is. awkward."
"silence.... of the lambs hahahahaha.... ohhh fvck"
"I want to be a writer... yeah and i'm gonna write your silent film a$$ right out of my story!"
.... I dont know, just a few off the top of my head... I LOVE awkward silences, they bring so much opportunity!!! Look at all I have to choose from.
"do you prefer hip-hop or country?"
"My little sister has a new boyfriend... i think he is a punk, you think thats normal for me to be protective?"
"What size are you're tits?"
"..have you everrrrr had a lesbian experience?"
"I'm thinking of dying my hair blonde, what do you think?"
"I tend to get alot of dingleberrys, do you have any crack-hair? do you even know what a dingleberry is?"
"This awkward silence you have forced me into is really turning me on!"
"Have you ever been attracted to a cartoon character?" (the answer will always be yes)
"Do I have anything in my teeth?"
"you're amazing looking, your so hot looking that I bet you're feet are just butt ugly nasty looking... cause no one is perfect.. ewww just thinking of your feet is so nasty my mom might puke"
"My moms gay"
"My brothers gay"
"I want to go on a trip somehwhere.. recommend any good vacation spots?
"please sit on my face"
"I sometimes get this weird urge to slap a persons face... usually a girls"
"...so the other day I was wearing my manly G-String.. Backwards"
"Do you have a smoke... You nasty cancer patient"
"OMG do you smell that?.. jesus, I hope thats not coming from you"
"Do you have a friend named sally by chance?"
"I feel so good right now, I went on a huge hike yesterday. You ever feel your muscles ache but it just feels right for some reason?"
"I have a weird tendancy to drink pepto-bismol as a beverage"
"Yesterday I was chased by a pack of wild dogs... I narrowly escaped death because they started fvcking each other"
"ohhhh Fvck"
"fvck... you know what I just remebered? ....ARGHGHHHH FVCK"
"Goddammit fvck... **** you know what I just remembered... its a good thing you stopped talking finally so I could actually remember this... Fvck"
"oh fvck"
"fvck"
"Do you have any younger sisters?"
"How often do you have a bowel movement?"
"Are you're nipples like pepperonis or pennies?... really? let me see"
"I want to get a cute puppy, know of any breed that grow up slowly? I love that puppy stage"
"ooh fvck sh!t"
"what day is it?"
"....hmmm well. this. is. awkward."
"silence.... of the lambs hahahahaha.... ohhh fvck"
"I want to be a writer... yeah and i'm gonna write your silent film a$$ right out of my story!"
.... I dont know, just a few off the top of my head... I LOVE awkward silences, they bring so much opportunity!!! Look at all I have to choose from.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
hahaha f'ing hilarious... Love seinfield... brilliant writing.JuanMoore said:
War Against Betaism
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Every time there's a silence and I'm with a girl, I always play thumb war with her. And I ALWAYS cheat. The part where you have to count to 10 in order to win, they usually try to let loose and when they do, I claim that they're the ones cheating and playing with them isn't any fun.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Randallpink83
Master Don Juan
girls always beat me at thumb wars 
I think its my nubs...
I think its my nubs...Kev07
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you don't HAVE to continue the conversation, do something else.
It's also pretty cool when the girl is the one that reinitiates the conversation.
It's also pretty cool when the girl is the one that reinitiates the conversation.
miniPIMPIN
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hah thats hilarous dude. thanks.Randallpink83 said:
RogueWarrior
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For those of you who have never seen "Inside the Actor's Studio", watch just one installment for the last few minutes. The host does this sort of simple set of interview questions:
"What is your favorite word?"
"What is your least favorite word?"
"What sound or noise do you love?"
"What sound or noise do you hate?"
"What turns you on?" - Often gets a quizzical "did I hear you right?" look.
"What turns you off?"
"What profession other than yours would you like to attempt?"
"What profession would you not like to attempt?"
"What is your favorite curse word?"
"What do you want to hear God say when you reach the pearly gates?"
For girls who have seen the show, they get that sense of being a starlet for a few moments. And if she's into you, she'll ask you the same questions.
"What is your favorite word?"
"What is your least favorite word?"
"What sound or noise do you love?"
"What sound or noise do you hate?"
"What turns you on?" - Often gets a quizzical "did I hear you right?" look.
"What turns you off?"
"What profession other than yours would you like to attempt?"
"What profession would you not like to attempt?"
"What is your favorite curse word?"
"What do you want to hear God say when you reach the pearly gates?"
For girls who have seen the show, they get that sense of being a starlet for a few moments. And if she's into you, she'll ask you the same questions.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.