electro shock
Don Juan
My best friend is about to have a nervous breakdown and I feel so bad for him that I really don't know what to do.
Last summer he started going out with a girl. He was madly in love with her and she seemed to like him a lot too, however she was a bit suspicious of him.
She said that he seemed like a good guy, but that she had been cheated on and lied to way too many times and that it was difficult for her to truly trust him after what she had lived through with other guys. Basically, she was saying that some guys in the past had broken her heart because she fell in love with them and then realized that they just wanted her for sex then dumped her when they had enough or had found another girl. She wanted a guy who could love her for who she was, a guy who could be there for her and care honestly about her for unselfish reasons.
So, basically, the girl told my friend that if he wanted to be her boyfriend he had to prove to her that he really loved her for who she is. Simple: no sex for six months. That was the rule. She said that they wouldn't have sex unless they could date regularly and get along well for six months.
My friend, who was madly in love with her, didn't even think twice before accepting.
So they started going out, and it seemed as though they were pretty happy together, except for the fact that they weren't having sex. The girl's father died during the summer and my friend didn't leave her side for one second to help her through it.
So, now is the fifth month, and suddenly the girl wants to dump him. Basically, she says that she has nothing against him, but that she doesn't feel quite ready to get into a relationship at that point in her life, and that she needed time by herself.
Worse, after having spent thousands of dollars on that girl in dinners, presents, etc., my friend now finds out that she had been sleeping around more often than a street *****
Now he can't help but look behind him to make sure that the entire world isn't laughing at his misfortune. I'm the only one he can talk to because we've been friends since like first grade.
Anyway, I want to ask you guys... what can I tell my friend? Also, how can I make sure that I never get caught in something like this? I can't even begin to understand how humiliating and painful it must be to have dedicated yourself to a girl for 5 months without getting anything in return then finding out that she had been sleeping around with pretty much anyone she felt like, guys who probably wouldn't even have given her the time of the day on most nights.
I've always been very polite and generous, not only to girls but basically to everyone I've ever known. Is this kind of situation really what society gives generous people as a reward for their actions? Would you see this as just an isolated incident or is it, in your experience, commonplace for a girl to play with a guy's emotions like that?
I'm impatiently waiting for your answers, and honestly I think that I'm about to lose faith in humanity.
Last summer he started going out with a girl. He was madly in love with her and she seemed to like him a lot too, however she was a bit suspicious of him.
She said that he seemed like a good guy, but that she had been cheated on and lied to way too many times and that it was difficult for her to truly trust him after what she had lived through with other guys. Basically, she was saying that some guys in the past had broken her heart because she fell in love with them and then realized that they just wanted her for sex then dumped her when they had enough or had found another girl. She wanted a guy who could love her for who she was, a guy who could be there for her and care honestly about her for unselfish reasons.
So, basically, the girl told my friend that if he wanted to be her boyfriend he had to prove to her that he really loved her for who she is. Simple: no sex for six months. That was the rule. She said that they wouldn't have sex unless they could date regularly and get along well for six months.
My friend, who was madly in love with her, didn't even think twice before accepting.
So they started going out, and it seemed as though they were pretty happy together, except for the fact that they weren't having sex. The girl's father died during the summer and my friend didn't leave her side for one second to help her through it.
So, now is the fifth month, and suddenly the girl wants to dump him. Basically, she says that she has nothing against him, but that she doesn't feel quite ready to get into a relationship at that point in her life, and that she needed time by herself.
Worse, after having spent thousands of dollars on that girl in dinners, presents, etc., my friend now finds out that she had been sleeping around more often than a street *****
Now he can't help but look behind him to make sure that the entire world isn't laughing at his misfortune. I'm the only one he can talk to because we've been friends since like first grade.
Anyway, I want to ask you guys... what can I tell my friend? Also, how can I make sure that I never get caught in something like this? I can't even begin to understand how humiliating and painful it must be to have dedicated yourself to a girl for 5 months without getting anything in return then finding out that she had been sleeping around with pretty much anyone she felt like, guys who probably wouldn't even have given her the time of the day on most nights.
I've always been very polite and generous, not only to girls but basically to everyone I've ever known. Is this kind of situation really what society gives generous people as a reward for their actions? Would you see this as just an isolated incident or is it, in your experience, commonplace for a girl to play with a guy's emotions like that?
I'm impatiently waiting for your answers, and honestly I think that I'm about to lose faith in humanity.
