Someone help me over my anxiety about kiss-closing!

[JCballin88]

So quick background...I moved out to a new city for the summer and have had a blast working a seasonal job and staying at my cousins' house on a lake.

I've had a really great attitude about going out and making all kinds of new friends...and it was really a challenge for me to change like that because naturally I'm pretty shy/introverted.

Anyways, I had about 3 girls that I was hanging out with regularly. I finally got around to kissing 2/3 of them, but it was only after hanging out with them for a few weeks that I finally grew the balls to man up and do it.

Unfortunately I have to head home next weekend. I have one final girl that I've been seeing that is a serious HB9. We had a really good time hanging out at the beach yesterday. I walked her back to her car, where she offered to drive me down the street a mile or so where I had parked. When we got to my car, I just kinda sat there...like I totally froze! I kinda grabbed her hand and mumbled something about "thanks for meeting up today, it was a lot of fun! Just wish I didn't have to leave in 8 days." And she replied like "yeah...it's okay we'll hang out next week before you go!" And then I just froze again, thanked her and got out.

I know I probably should have gone for a kiss, but I just am so scared of getting rejected. The other issue is that I'm not sure how she would respond to me making serious sexual advances, since she knows I'm leaving town and may not want to get involved with me for that reason. Who knows.

I'm planning on challenging her to some mini-golf during a night this week, where I definitely want to go for it. Heck, I have NOTHING to lose really, but I just always freeze up when I know it's time to go for that kiss! Who can help me?

 

[donjuanapprentice01]

3 second rule... JUST DO IT!

 

[Ease]

Kiss close anxiety annoys me too.

Someone once said, 'its like jumping into a cold lake', it must be done. Which is true u can get worked up about it in your head.

Make it very clear and obvious your going in for the kiss when you do it though, cos it can turn out strangely if your nervous. I like to grab her by her clothes lightly and pull her close a bit.

If all that fails and your in the middle of conversation, u can try the 'kiss test'. Pua material.

You ask, "Would you like to kiss me?

If she says yes, kiss her.

If she says, "Maybe," ''Why?", "What do you mean" or "I donno" it means she does, but is shy about it. Reply with a gleam in your eye, "Let's find out..." *kiss*

Remember to caress the back of her neck to show you mean business.

If she says no, you reply, "Well I didn't say you could, it just looked like you had something on your mind." (Don't ask "Why not?" This shows low self-esteem.)
If she says, "not yet" or "not here" it means she is open to it but there is a logistical issue. Perhaps her friends are nearby, or she needs more gaming first. Say, "I understand," and continue gaming her.

 

[JCballin88]

I don't know why, but I've always felt that kissing is more something that you just make happen through body language than by asking her directly. I've never done it by asking them straight-up like that...perhaps a try is in order :/

 

[BongDuy]

do you think asking " Would you like to kiss me?" comes off a little weak? Idk why but ever since i read the " don't ask, tell " notion when it comes to women, i cant help but see questions as being a less than manly move. is it just me?