"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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someone,.. Anyone..have the same problem as me? PLEASE Help!

In2theGame

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Lately, i feel down, despressed. I am a good looking guy, not because i think so but because many hot girls have told me so, plus i feel im not a bad looking guy. I have a great girlfriend who wants t marry me but... every now and then, deep down inside,.. i want to go out a hook up with the cute girls that smile at me and flirt. I dont feel like myself... I have always been the "leader" of my pack of friends when it came to sarging and i have not been around my friends for a long time because work and G/F take up all my time. I feel "trapped" or "closed in" because as much as i want to sarge or flirt and hook up with the cute chick around the block, I feel i "cant" B/C im involved in a LTR. For example... There is this Hot, and i mean Sizzling Hot, chick that works in a supermarkert close by my house and lives even closer to my house, im talking walking distance,... anyway... Everytime i see her, She is smiling! from ear to ear, but im thinking shes just being friendly but when im in line waiting to buy something, she stares at me non stop and when i look and make eye contact she smiles and looks away quickly. now with my experience with women, that is a "sign" that all systems are go if i wanted to get her number. Oh god how i want to get with her! (Think.. Dark Blonde hair, green eyes, gorgeous face, huge tight ass with a slim waiste, C+ cup size, 5'9) to make matters WORSE is her personality is awesome, playful and cheerful and sweet voice....---- To make matters EVEN WORSE!!! is right by me, she was joking with one of her Coworkers and said " I need a man" "sucks being home alone" ... I mean i wanted to freakin explode! while holding in my "game". All i can think of is my G/F, who i do love but the "Don Juan" inside of me is screaming to come out. My life doesnt feel "exciting" right now in terms of women. I kind of miss the feel of my cell phone ringing knowing it could be any of the cute chicks i pulled during the week, instead i know exactly who it is every time it rings :(

just last week. this cutie at a CVS smiles at me alot and these two men were trying to get her number and flirt with her,.. she seemed bothered but after they left... i couldnt control my "gaming" urge...

Me: Hmm... do you always have to put up with old men hitting on you? "smile".
Her: "Smile" ... Kinda yea "lol" its weird.
Me: Yea im sure.. So this is what you do all day huh? stocking shelves..
Her: Yea, until i can get school going, i need a computer so i can look things up.. I dont have one "sad face"
Me: Oh.. ... I work with computers everyday, i build them at work for other companies.
Her: Really? That sounds good, "smile" I just cant afford one now, since i live alone and need to pay the rent.. "smile"

OMG! i wanted to say so bad!!... "Maybe i can come by and show you how to build one"
Instead i said "Ohh yeah maybe u can get one soon" <~~ this is not ME! not how i act. I wanted to game so bad! but felt i couldnt B/C of G/F.

Im addicted to sarging and gettin with girls. How can i stop this down feeling im having? anyone feel the same? i feel so down.
 

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She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

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Wyldfire

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Maybe you should try to spice things up with your girlfriend some. It doesn't sound like you want to give up the relationship or even that you really want to be with someone else. It sounds like you miss the spontaneity and excitement that comes early in relationships. You can create that again with your girlfriend virtually any time that you are feeling this way. Women are reactive...and there is a good chance your girlfriend is also missing the same things you are.

You're going to run into this in every relationship you ever get into...and the only way to avoid it is to only have brief short term relationships. That will feel good for awhile...but eventually you will want what you have now...and if you love her as you have said that you do and she's a good woman there is a very high probability that you will regret messing that up.

It's a tough call...but my advice would be to look for ways to try to spice things up with your girlfriend. Also...give her verbal cues that you want to spice things up. Tell her stuff like "Remember when you did such and such...man that turned me on so much.", etc. If you are doing things to spice things up and use those verbal cues she is likely to react by trying to spice things up as well.
 
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How old are you?

Are you thinking about marrying your girl?

Are you sexing her? If so, then she is just another hor and I encourage you to find the best hor available!!! Only be loyal to your wife - or to your virgin wife-to-be!!!
 

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So you want to have more women in your life, but you feel guility about it?
You have an LTR, and can only think about your LTR when thinking about getting more women, YET, your LTR doesn't fulfill your needs?

How many fvcking lives do you think you have here? 9? Are you a cat?

I haven't seen Heaven yet, I hope it's up there and I can live forever, but for right now....I know that I have this life right here.

And you if you think I'm going to be TRAPPED as you say, in a relationship with someone that doesn't fulfill my needs JUST BECAUSE she is my quote on quote "Girlfriend" you have another thing coming.

First off, don't get caught up on titles. She can be your girlfriend on Monday, and be sueing you in court on Thursday.

Don't feel that just because someone has given you a title, you have to stay under it. Damn man, isn't that like slavery? What's the difference between "Hey Nygga get over here.." and your girlfriend saying, "Hey baby, you're my boyfriend, where do you think you're going?"

Be in a relationship that fulfills your needs. Be in a relationship that makes you happy, if it stops, THEN LEAVE.

So what if she cries, there's thousands of women out here, and if one isn't fulfilling your needs why the fvck are you staying around? Because she loves you? You do know that if you're unhappy in the relationship, it's a high probablity she is probably unhappy on some level too right?

Now, when Miss "Girly Friend" over here decides that YOU don't fulfill her needs and she wants to go clubbing with Wyldfire and the girls, do you think she's going to think, "Oh, but In2theGame is my boyfriend." No, she's going to think about how she just doesn't "feel right" in the relationship and it's time to move on.

Don't mean to break up a happy home......but it's better to be somewhere that you love then somewhere that you tolerate. Why? Because as far as I know for know, we only have this one life, and not 8 other ones to TRY AGAIN on. Lol, no this is not Super Mario, when I get hit by that damn Fireball I'm OUT.

- DJF
 

Flirt-o-rama

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To make matters EVEN WORSE!!! is right by me, she was joking with one of her Coworkers and said " I need a man" "sucks being home alone" ... I mean i wanted to freakin explode!
This actually sounds like she is playing you. A normal woman would discuss such an issue on the best friend's sofa over a wine, not within earshot of men. Some people like to break a relationship up for ego needs.
 

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I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

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