Some women think I'm a homo.

[perseverance]

Over the course of the last year more and more women are asking my friends if I am a homo. Some even will ask me out right to my face in conversation.

I laugh it off as I'm secure in my sexuality and only have sexual urges towards women, not men, but it is interesting and hard to understand where women are coming to these conclusions.

I'm starting to think I'm either giving off the "gay vibe" to women or I'm not masculine enough, it has to be one or two, it can't be anything can else can it?

It hasn't stopped me getting the occasional woman here and there, but I would like to know if any other male on here has had this happen to him?

 

[L B]

If you can't change it, then use it as your strength. Women will probably be more comfortable with you right off the bat.

 

[Blackgame]

if you have to I would advise you change the way you dressed... idk as I cant see you to give you solid advice on how to change this but I do have a post on a look that may help you out...

http://sexy stereotype the skater look


if you are willing to provide more info (like a pic no face is needed) I would be more then willing you help out if I can

 

[Scars]

I think you could definitely use this to your advantage. People who give off a "sexual" vibe are very often mistaken for being gay. Metrosexual men usually don't have any problem getting woman, assuming they also have a little game. It brings the attention towards you, and giving off a "sexual" vibe also makes them think about you sexually. It sounds fvcked up, but that's how the woman mind works. Woman will actually think about having sex with gay men. It does happen. Gay men are confident with who they are. They give off a sexual vibe, are usually outgoing and very touchy. Confidence, not being afraid of their sexuality, and kino.. is that not what all woman want? Just make it clear you aren't gay. You know you're not. Just be confident. With a little game, you could easily turn the frame around on them and start turning these girls into numbers.

 

[BigJimbo]

I think you could definitely use this to your advantage. People who give off a "sexual" vibe are very often mistaken for being gay. Metrosexual men usually don't have any problem getting woman, assuming they also have a little game. It brings the attention towards you, and giving off a "sexual" vibe also makes them think about you sexually. It sounds fvcked up, but that's how the woman mind works. Woman will actually think about having sex with gay men. It does happen. Gay men are confident with who they are. They give off a sexual vibe, are usually outgoing and very touchy. Confidence, not being afraid of their sexuality, and kino.. is that not what all woman want? Just make it clear you aren't gay. You know you're not. Just be confident. With a little game, you could easily turn the frame around on them and start turning these girls into numbers.

In most countries females don't have "gay friends". The countries where that is common (USA, ENGLAND, CANADA) it is mainly because females hate men to begin with. They have been told you are creepy and will hurt them.

 

[Gears of Led Zep]

It makes a little sense, doesn't it, Perserverance? Most of what this site and sites like it embraces tend to be thought of as, "gay," cuz its so uncommon. Confidence, playful touching, comfort, these are all traits that are pretty rare in your basic AFC, so it makes sense that girls will question your sexuality since they're so used to p*ssy guys.

I like in your post how you detailed the comfort with your sexuality thing, I've been asked this before and its always thrown me off-guard. But now I'm more prepared for it, cuz like Scars said, callm "sexual" vibes could be seen as gay. I always thought the stereotype for gays was like....outright flamboyant or whatever..but I guess there are some calm quiet ones, which is what I am. Like you said also I probably wasn't expressing my true masculinity or force. Believe me too Perserverance I gotta get it out there quick!! Lol I've got girl eyes basically, almond-shaped cat eyes with real thick eyelashes, and calm relaxed eyelids. For me its a double-edged sword cuz I probably look gay at first, idk most girls tell me its a big turn on.

But whatever right I'm getting better with using that to my advantage! as this thread has already hinted at

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Pook talked about this. He had a lot of women believing he was gay. Unless you have a really gay voice, I'd say this is a good thing. Use it to your advantage man.

 

[Nexus Polaris]

It depends on how they're asking it. If they're showing some kind of interest in you before asking, that's chick code for "why won't you make a move?" You said they've started doing this more and more over the last year. Has your overall attention level from women gone up during this time as well?

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

I have been asked this by more girls that have wanted to bed me than that have not. Either it's an attempt to neg you or they're genuinely interested and want you to prove that you're not.

Next time this happens, ask the girl what makes her think this or what would lead her to ask such a question. At least then you'll solve the mystery if she can answer honestly (and isn't just trying to mess with your head in the first place).

 

[Electric]

Wow. What's going on in your heads guys???? An advantage?? use it to your ADVANTAGE??? Do you guys have any pride as men?

To OP, if many people think you are homo, there is a problem either with the way you look, the way you talk, the way you walk and move, or all of these.

Unless you are a homo, acting like one is the dumbest thing I ever heard of. Even a homo acting like a homo sucks.

To fix your problem (because it's a problem), stop dressing like a soft faggass metrosexual. You don't want to look "soft". Go for a more rugged up look, and I'm not talking about the rugged up look that takes 3 hours in front the mirror to achieve... that'd be fake. Here I'm assuming that you look gay by the way you dress.

Do these things and then forget about all of this creepy stuff and people are never going to think of you as homo again. And if they do, tell them to fvck off, because they'd have to be crazy to see homos everywhere. Good luck.

 

[L B]

Wow. What's going on in your heads guys???? An advantage?? use it to your ADVANTAGE??? Do you guys have any pride as men?

To OP, if many people think you are homo, there is a problem either with the way you look, the way you talk, the way you walk and move, or all of these.

Unless you are a homo, acting like one is the dumbest thing I ever heard of. Even a homo acting like a homo sucks.

To fix your problem (because it's a problem), stop dressing like a soft faggass metrosexual. You don't want to look "soft". Go for a more rugged up look, and I'm not talking about the rugged up look that takes 3 hours in front the mirror to achieve... that'd be fake. Here I'm assuming that you look gay by the way you dress.

Do these things and then forget about all of this creepy stuff and people are never going to think of you as homo again. And if they do, tell them to fvck off, because they'd have to be crazy to see homos everywhere. Good luck.

Ever heard of wolf in sheep's clothing?

Use it well op.

 

[londonzen]

It depends on how they're asking it. If they're showing some kind of interest in you before asking, that's chick code for "why won't you make a move?" You said they've started doing this more and more over the last year. Has your overall attention level from women gone up during this time as well?

my take on this

 

[Electric]

Ever heard of wolf in sheep's clothing?

Use it well op.

Yeah, but never heard of "man in fag's clothing"......

 

[Mike32ct]

To some extent, it's a good thing. If women are asking around to see if you are gay, it is because of the following:

1. They are attracted to you.
2. They can't understand why an attractive guy like you doesn't have a gf. Thus, by chick logic, he must be gay.

(Women do not believe that an attractive straight male can or should be single.)

Think about it. If they weren't attracted to you, they couldn't care less about your sexual orientation. For example, if you knew a really ugly chick, would you care if she was straight or lesbian? Of course not.

Not every guy is ultra masculine. I know I'm not, but I'm straight as an arrow. I haven't been called gay much, but have had more than my fair share of gay guys hit on me.

Anyway, I wouldn't sweat it. I would use it to your advantage. Chicks will feel comfortable around you and not have their guard up.

 

[Electric]

If a woman thinks you are gay....

That means she thinks you do other dudes in the ass.

How is that for respect?

Think about it...

 

[perseverance]

It depends on how they're asking it. If they're showing some kind of interest in you before asking, that's chick code for "why won't you make a move?" You said they've started doing this more and more over the last year. Has your overall attention level from women gone up during this time as well?

My friends sometimes tell me that the woman was serious when she asked us, if you're gay and sometimes they say it in a jokular manner. The last girl that asked me directly seemed to ask in a tongue-in-cheek manner, but in truth if she wanted me to make a move on her, it was never going to happen as I wanted interested in her to begin with.

My attraction level for women has maintained the same. Some women peak my level more than others, but that's the same for everyone.

 

[Warrior74]

Sometimes you get asked that because for most women, they only see three types of men. Thugs, Average joes, good looking pretty boys. Of those, its only one catagory they are going to worry about being gay, and it aint the thugs and average joes. You can take it as a compliment or as a diss, I guess it depends on the usage.

 

[perseverance]

I have been asked this by more girls that have wanted to bed me than that have not. Either it's an attempt to neg you or they're genuinely interested and want you to prove that you're not.

Next time this happens, ask the girl what makes her think this or what would lead her to ask such a question. At least then you'll solve the mystery if she can answer honestly (and isn't just trying to mess with your head in the first place).

Yeah I will do, but to me it's not really an issue as it doesn't and hasn't stopped me getting numbers and getting women. I'm not going to lie, I'm not a pick up artist, I'm not getting sixteen or seventeen numbers a night and I'm not getting laid every weekend, but I'm not an AFC who couldn't score in a brothel either. I'm comfortable with who I am and what I am and I'm enjoying life, so I'm not going to make any major upheveals just yet.

 

[perseverance]

To some extent, it's a good thing. If women are asking around to see if you are gay, it is because of the following:

1. They are attracted to you.
2. They can't understand why an attractive guy like you doesn't have a gf. Thus, by chick logic, he must be gay.

(Women do not believe that an attractive straight male can or should be single.)

Think about it. If they weren't attracted to you, they couldn't care less about your sexual orientation. For example, if you knew a really ugly chick, would you care if she was straight or lesbian? Of course not.

Not every guy is ultra masculine. I know I'm not, but I'm straight as an arrow. I haven't been called gay much, but have had more than my fair share of gay guys hit on me.

Anyway, I wouldn't sweat it. I would use it to your advantage. Chicks will feel comfortable around you and not have their guard up.

This is interesting, I wasn't really sweating it, it's just confused me as to why women would ask this, I never guessed it was a sign of interest because I haven't seen it discussed before.

 

[Maxfarsigth]

No one has pointed something like this out so I will.
When I was in HS about 7-8 yrs ago, I was so insecure and had such a lack of manhood that people asked my female friends if I was gay..
But I was not gay! I was such a royal AFC.
And in my opinion, theres only a couple of differences between AFC and gay.. At least here in my city.
In fact!! I think that after a series of events, it is posible for a BAFC to become gay.. or at least a little gayish.
So..

Towards manhood !!