some tips for cold approaching at the mall: Test of a real DJ

[KneghtRyder]

THIS IS A FAST PACED ENVIRONMENT AND YOU"VE GOT TO BE QUICK SHARP AND 100 % CONFIDENT. IF you can't go through the whole mall and chat it up with every girl in there, THEN YOU CAN"T BE A real DJ..your just a whiteboy who got his puzzy compliments of his genes. (j/k nothing wrong with being white)


Assume your going to approach her --

1) if you looked at her eyes, and by the time you've contemplated whether or not it was a strong IOIs shes already up the escalator on the third floor. You've got to have an idea what girls will be into you and pre-register into your mind to approach.

Check for interest

2) Giver her a big fat ass gay smile and open your hand and SMILE , with something basic openers ..and if you see interest in her , then you've got your IOI get right in there if shes smiling. there now the next part requires you to be really SHARP and a good talker. Now if the IOI is poor / weak/walking away from you then ; yes you can try to force her to talk to you but you need a girl thats interested in you...so if shes not interested you can only 'save your breath' for the one that is


3) Now this part is ; you've got to be very SMOOTH in your talking..QUick and sharp don't let there be boring dull moments while you've got her attention..you've got to have something to talk about..be like a smooth sales man but be very funny witty and keep it going for a few minutes to build up the rapport / understanding.

4) NOW THIS Is important, You've got to be CONfident in your talk. YOu can't swiver and talk poorly , keep it jovial and try to interject humor and be really smooth if shes interested you've got to display a bit of confidence to her in your conversation or whatever...I like to get slapped with a rejection first when I enter the mall to get me going or chat with people I know to get me talking..I AM A KING. I AM A KING AND MY BLOOD IS FROM THE KINGS AND I DESERVE TO GET A GF BC I AM A KING. NO MATTER HOW MANY TIMES you get rejected keep your confidence( choose your rejections wisely , why unnecessarily harm your confidence with rejections that you know you will lose ?)

5) NOw I USUALLY play a game to keep me approaching in the mall, its usually something like this .; I try to get to 10 rejections I alternate between cold approaches and hot ones or I try to get 3 conversations that last more than 5 minutes. THIS HELPS ALOT! You must learn to let rejection fall off like water off a ducks ass.

p.s. some of you fools cough up alot got allergies broncitis that **** saps your energy and you need your voice and energy if your approaching 3-4 girls convos for 5 minutes

just 1 success is all it takes and then you'll think all this failure was worth it

 

[greenlake]

It's about time someone create a thread about the mall venue. This is a good thread for most high school students since summer break started. Good job kneghtryder!! How about I add some of my tips. i hope you don't mind.

1. Be relax, smile naturally, and KINO her!!

2. Since hot girls will walk around in a hurried most of the time, I prefer you guy just do direct approaches. She's konw why you're approaching her and you'll know if she is interested. It's a win-win. And you don't have to think too much to come up with a opener.

3. Tries to talk to everyone. Yes, that includes ug, old people, guys and even kids. Climb slowly up, the faster you start this the more quicker you'll have the courage to do it with the hb.

4. Try to talk to the people who work there. They're pay to be nice to you. So use that benefit!!

5. Remember one thing, you'll never see the same girl again at the mall. Unless you're trying to hit on the people who work there. But you should if you don't care. Alway take chances.

6. If you have a wing, bring him with you the first few times. At least you guys can laugh about it if one of you screw up. But try to go alone when you're better.

7. Read materials that motivate you before you get out of the house.

8. Since you're direct approaching, you got to dress your best. It will gives you confident and also give the girls a sense that you're a neat guy.

9. Do not take this seriously.

10. Make it FUN!!!!

 

[KneghtRyder]

your an expert at this greenlake, by all means, I welcome your tips !

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

yep, Greenlake knows what he's talking about! Direct >= situational > Indirect at a mall.

 

[abcd_z]

Ugh. No, direct is not better or worse than situational or indirect. It's the level of risk involved, that's all. Of the three ways to open, indirect is easiest to open, but toughest to transition to a normal conversation. Direct is the opposite: you'll get blown out a lot, but if your body language pulls you through and the chick is up for it, you are in like flynn.

 

[DonJoseCantosie]

which is why direct is better for overall, IMO as ur not hiding ur intention yet. For some reason, i've gotten better responses doing direct than situational or indirect.

 

[Yapper]

If you're getting 10 rejections then your game must not be very smooth.

 

[Snow Plowman]

I'll just offer some value to this thread

1. Direct vs Indirect - It really doesn't matter which way you go in, it still does it's purpose. Start conversation.

2. Have Fun - Play around, get into state, have fun. A funny way to open is to just tap them and start doing sign language. There is so many different things you can play off of.

3. Be confident - Have good eye contact, voice, body language

4. Frame Contrl - Crucial

5. PLOW - This is by far the most important thing. If you expect to get into these sets you need to plow, plow, plow.

6. CLOSE - Go for the #, k close, or instadate (It's a mall many different stores) Or do all three. Don't wuss out at least try.

 

[mintxx]

Nice use of words.

Plow - yeah I plowed my woman last night. Wouldn't do it at a mall though...
Kino - meaning touch? just say touch. nerds.

if you approach a complete stranger and start talking to her for no reason she will think you are mental, desperate and possibly a bit dangerous. I think this PUA stuff might have given you the wrong idea.