"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

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some thoughts about feminism and the "Matrix"

drak_ool

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I was chatting up a hottie in a club on saturday night when the topic of buying drinks came up. She brought it up saying that one of the few advantages of being a female is that you never have to buy your own drinks (all this time she was holding a drink that she had just bought herself, since i don't buy drinks to girls i just meet).

What I found really interesting was the fact that she considered being a female a disadvantage, generally speaking. I know, one could say this is just another example of feminist indoctrination...

However, i ve found myself thinking about this topic many times: is life harder for males or females? I understand that on this forum there is a general trend towards denouncing the "feminist" matrix, and how it controls the "mating rules" and has a great influence on society itself. This matrix theory lumps all women (or almost) as hors, while pitying the modern males who have to deal with them. However, what is this matrix, really? Can feminist really have gathered so much strength?

What has feminism really achieved over the past 30-40 years that is so wrong for DJs? Along with other factors, it has led to the crumbling of the family unit. Very true. However, by emancipating women, it also naturally increased the pool of HBs men can hit on. How many un-married women would be seen in bars in the 1950s? How many women back then agreed to have casual sex?

I have read some posts about how women were more high quality back then, how it was easier to establish a family back then, and so on... However, I am not thinking about marriage right now! All i care about right now is casual, random sex with the hottest chicks i can get... And why can i go to a bar and fvck a HB (maybe not right away if she isn't such a slut, but i ll do her eventually)? because of the feminist movement! because of the sex revolution!

Yes, girls are more promiscuous, more manipulative, they branch swing etc. But in the same time, they are also more willing to give a DJ/PU what he wants. So feminism isn't all that bad and one can use the matrix, if he knows his way around, to his advantage.

Finally (and I know i ll get flamed for this)... guys, open up your eyes: in today's world IT IS BETTER BEING A MAN THAN A WOMAN. Yes, if you re simply looking at the mating system, it s easier for a low quality (desperate) woman to satisfy her needs than it is for an equally low quality (desperate) male. But even in the mating system, if you look at the top of the food chain, it s hard to make a case that high quality women have better prospects than high quality males (Hugh Hefner is parading 3 girlfriends on TV every week...).

And in all other aspects, men are favorites. Keeping in mind that the ratio of women to men in the US is about 50-50, look at the CEOs and owners of fortune 500 companies: how many women do you find? Same goes for politics (H. Clinton is the first viable woman candidate in 230 years of US history). On average, a woman makes 25% less than a man for the exact same job. And this is the USA, where women have made the most gains. In every other part of the world (maybe except Scandinavia) women have it worst.

The point of my post was to stop blaming feminism and the matrix for your lack of success with women. You are a MAN and you have a better chance of making it, in life than a woman. So swing at it as hard as you can, and when you hit that homerun women WILL come flocking to you.
 

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Without reading your entire post, here is my initial gut reaction to your question:

Life is easier for women if they thought like men, however they are built a different way than us, they don't think the same way, so they aren't naturally ingrained to take advantage of all their tools.

That being said, they've made a world of advances in the past 2 decades and they are taking advantage of it way more than they use to and have closed the gap.

A prime example, women have the opportunity to sleep their way to the top but they dignity won't let 90% of them, whereas guys have NO dignity when it comes to that and would relish the opportunity but we don't have the opportunity.
 

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MacAvoy said:
A prime example, women have the opportunity to sleep their way to the top but they dignity won't let 90% of them, whereas guys have NO dignity when it comes to that and would relish the opportunity but we don't have the opportunity.
would you really sleep with your 55 y.o. balding manager who weights 250 lbs in order to get that promotion? if you really have no dignity a pvssy's a pvssy, right?
 

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And in all other aspects, men are favorites. Keeping in mind that the ratio of women to men in the US is about 50-50, look at the CEOs and owners of fortune 500 companies: how many women do you find? Same goes for politics (H. Clinton is the first viable woman candidate in 230 years of US history). On average, a woman makes 25% less than a man for the exact same job. And this is the USA, where women have made the most gains. In every other part of the world (maybe except Scandinavia) women have it worst.
That is sort of an erroneous statement. It ignores the fact that women tend to be interested in and go into lower paying career fields such as teaching, retail, nursing, etc. Also, unlike men, women get pregnant and are forced to temporarily abandon their career for the sake of children then return to that career later on while a man would have stayed there the entire time and would have had a much better chance of getting advanced or paid more.
 
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