"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some Things On My Mind That Arent Making Sense

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My success is what you'd can manic. I have extreme highs followed by extreme lows. I have hooked up with one girl from the past one, two weeks and I wouldnt brag about it but whatever. I don't want anything to do with that girl so I cut it off.

It just seems like the chicks that are at the very least do able have loads of guys all after them. I fukin hate this, this one girl ive been hitting on all last week and this one just decides to ask me on advice over some guy, and i kno shes not making it up bc of my sources. Its like I don't fukkin exsist and i'm automatically thrown into the friend zone no matter how dj bible perfect i am. I'm fukkkkin 16 I shouldnt be having this delemia. Girls tell me i'm hot too and im not shy so why the hell am i being thrown into the friendzone so fast. lol, all i want is a decent gf i donno wtf is the deal.

Its like I completely turned myself around from a few years ago and its still the same deal.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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this isnt a perfect science, wheres the fun if it isnt a bit hard? :p

anyways, most good lookin girls will have a bunch of guys after them, the point of being a DJ is being different to the bunch of posers that are after her, theres probably some problem there.
 

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lol i dont kno wtf the problem is, its like im never like a prospect haah. Its not even hot girls that have every guy after them, its even crappy ones too. i dont fukin kno, its like i can only get what i dont want.
 

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Spot on,

If you make sure she knows you are sexually interested EARLY ENOUGH, you will never end up in the friend zone.

Here's the trick. If you show interest to early, then her ***** shield will come up because she thinks you only want her for one thing (even though you do), if you show sexual interest to late, she will get confused as she has allready dumped you in the friend zone. (she did that because she was confused, she thought you saw her as a friend.).

So qualify, find out something interesting about her and let her know that you like that, this makes her feel more comfortable and thinks you might like her for more then just the hole between her legs.

Also, i'd like to mention. Make sure your always making the first move, ALWAYS. Men make the first move, it is the way it is, we lead they follow. You have to make them feel like that everything that is happening is happening because you want it to. If you put them in charge they will clam up and throw you in to the friend zone - because in charge is not where they feel comfortable!!

Hope this helped.
 

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I agree with the original poster that even the average girls or above average(not even hot ones) have plenty of guys going for them. Its just that simple. That is where the problem is, a girl might like you and another guy but he wins out maybe because of his looks or he has a good car or whatever.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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we all eat food

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yo bbx, i think the reason why ur getting into the friend zone, is that your letting them know you realy well, before doing anything.. Basically the attitude tou gotta go in is with supreme confidence, and if she doenst like you and rejects you, its her ****in fault,just dont care wat they think. Supreme confidence my friend.-
 

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1) Kino more...albeit subtly but girls will get a clue and turned on after a while
2) Success is always manic man...happiness on the other hand shouldnt be. You are determining whether you are happy based on your situation with girls...Read that Im Happy post by BBB. Happiness is a state of mind that gets you what you wanted when you realize you didnt ever need it.
3) Meet girls in a new social pool. These ones are obviously puttin you in the friend zone in a second, so find something new at the mall or wherever you meet girls. There, you will have a better aura of mystery and intrigue.
 
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