"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Some simple words of wisdom

the_m@n

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Never approach a woman being more worried about what she will think of you than what you will think of her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Damien Herst

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I had to re-read that statement a few times until it sunk in. Those are some good words. If I read that correctly, what you're saying is that men should not approach if they'll be worried about what she "thinks" about them? Or that you shouldn't approach if you'll feel self-conscious about it afterwards?

If that's the case, there's some truism to this BUT I feel there's a big flaw in this logic. It assumes that the interaction is going to fail.

Truth of the matter is whether you're feeling self-conscious or not, you should approach and talk to her anyways. How else do you plan on getting more and more comfortable talking with beautiful women?

Just my 2 cents in what I've experienced over the years.
 

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I would say its more like you aproach if you want to know her and not if she will like that, its about what you want not what she want
 

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also if they ask for your FB page just say that you don't have one.
i've found that some girls just wanna collect more "Facebook proof" .....more orbiters commenting on their pics , page etc...
 

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meh keep facebook for friends only and if its a girl and she really did find you over the face book and bug you for it accept but don't make her updates show on your feed, way things are today since she will use you for social proof, you can do that too, just never comment her things.

if you don't have one is even better. but since a lot of people have and sometimes its important you be in touch with certain people for business and friends you are kinda forced to have.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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