"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some simple words of wisdom

the_m@n

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Never approach a woman being more worried about what she will think of you than what you will think of her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Damien Herst

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I had to re-read that statement a few times until it sunk in. Those are some good words. If I read that correctly, what you're saying is that men should not approach if they'll be worried about what she "thinks" about them? Or that you shouldn't approach if you'll feel self-conscious about it afterwards?

If that's the case, there's some truism to this BUT I feel there's a big flaw in this logic. It assumes that the interaction is going to fail.

Truth of the matter is whether you're feeling self-conscious or not, you should approach and talk to her anyways. How else do you plan on getting more and more comfortable talking with beautiful women?

Just my 2 cents in what I've experienced over the years.
 

Alvafe

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I would say its more like you aproach if you want to know her and not if she will like that, its about what you want not what she want
 

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also if they ask for your FB page just say that you don't have one.
i've found that some girls just wanna collect more "Facebook proof" .....more orbiters commenting on their pics , page etc...
 

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meh keep facebook for friends only and if its a girl and she really did find you over the face book and bug you for it accept but don't make her updates show on your feed, way things are today since she will use you for social proof, you can do that too, just never comment her things.

if you don't have one is even better. but since a lot of people have and sometimes its important you be in touch with certain people for business and friends you are kinda forced to have.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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