"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Jean Valjean

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There is a need on this forum for some alternative views of the world ...here is a little different perspective hopefully it helps ...

'Most women want to know a man before becoming intimate with him. That often takes many more dates than three. If you find a woman you like and she wants to wait, you'd be a wise man to honor her wishes. Plus, you'd know that she's particular with whom she is intimate. Be a gentleman. Good partners are worth the wait.'
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Jean Valjean said:
There is a need on this forum for some alternative views of the world ...here is a little different perspective hopefully it helps ...
I'm glad I read the whole thread. I got a little scared when I saw the word "alternative".


Jean Valjean said:
'Most women want to know a man before becoming intimate with him.
True. I would say all women do.

Jean Valjean said:
That often takes many more dates than three.
I disagree.

There's no set number of dates for this to happen. I think you're assuming that there's no contact AT ALL between the dates.

Comfort happens when it happens. It's not like...

Date 1
Date 2
Date 3..."ok,I'm comfortable now. We can have sex".


Jean Valjean said:
If you find a woman you like and she wants to wait, you'd be a wise man to honor her wishes.
I agree,but what about our wishes? Do we have a say-so here as well,or do we just follow her around until she decides?


It's her perrogative if she wants to wait...but she'll still expect us to try. She wouldn't look at us as men if we didn't.


We try. If she give a temporary no,we respect it...but we still try.

Jean Valjean said:
Plus, you'd know that she's particular with whom she is intimate.
On this,I 100% agree.


Pretty decent post here.


I'll give you a rep point. Maybe it'll help to get you out of the "red". :D
 

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Hey Weeze


Hope the pain is gone. I don't worry anymore about my ex squeeze. The thing is I am going to be alot more careful about falling again for anyone.
You have to filter and be sure its real before you give your heart away.

I take on a zen detached state so I have no problem with communicating as long as it is reciprocal. Last time we emailed was 15 days ago but I will send a happy TG message. The junk email stopped coming in so either he is on the list or she got tired of not getting any responses from me.




How is it going for you?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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If you find a woman you like and she wants to wait, you'd be a wise man to honor her wishes.
I find this a refreshing point of view. It seems like to many on here, if the girl is not drunkenly willing to put out the same night she meets you, she's not worth your time. I might think the opposite is more likely to be the case if you're looking for a quality woman. But of course it depends on what your goal is for the interaction.
 

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Jean Valjean said:
Hey Weeze


Hope the pain is gone. I don't worry anymore about my ex squeeze. The thing is I am going to be alot more careful about falling again for anyone.
You have to filter and be sure its real before you give your heart away.

I take on a zen detached state so I have no problem with communicating as long as it is reciprocal. Last time we emailed was 15 days ago but I will send a happy TG message. The junk email stopped coming in so either he is on the list or she got tired of not getting any responses from me.




How is it going for you?

It's going okay, ups and downs. Still haven't broken NC, nor has she. Been over 2 months now.

Think I just gotta let this one go, but I still think about breaking NC, the next step for us is walking down the isle.. so unless I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with this chick, I've gotta just lay my hand down and not break NC.

Life is tough.
 
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