Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Some Sage advise for you

Jean Valjean

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There is a need on this forum for some alternative views of the world ...here is a little different perspective hopefully it helps ...

'Most women want to know a man before becoming intimate with him. That often takes many more dates than three. If you find a woman you like and she wants to wait, you'd be a wise man to honor her wishes. Plus, you'd know that she's particular with whom she is intimate. Be a gentleman. Good partners are worth the wait.'
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Jean Valjean said:
There is a need on this forum for some alternative views of the world ...here is a little different perspective hopefully it helps ...
I'm glad I read the whole thread. I got a little scared when I saw the word "alternative".


Jean Valjean said:
'Most women want to know a man before becoming intimate with him.
True. I would say all women do.

Jean Valjean said:
That often takes many more dates than three.
I disagree.

There's no set number of dates for this to happen. I think you're assuming that there's no contact AT ALL between the dates.

Comfort happens when it happens. It's not like...

Date 1
Date 2
Date 3..."ok,I'm comfortable now. We can have sex".


Jean Valjean said:
If you find a woman you like and she wants to wait, you'd be a wise man to honor her wishes.
I agree,but what about our wishes? Do we have a say-so here as well,or do we just follow her around until she decides?


It's her perrogative if she wants to wait...but she'll still expect us to try. She wouldn't look at us as men if we didn't.


We try. If she give a temporary no,we respect it...but we still try.

Jean Valjean said:
Plus, you'd know that she's particular with whom she is intimate.
On this,I 100% agree.


Pretty decent post here.


I'll give you a rep point. Maybe it'll help to get you out of the "red". :D
 

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Hey Weeze


Hope the pain is gone. I don't worry anymore about my ex squeeze. The thing is I am going to be alot more careful about falling again for anyone.
You have to filter and be sure its real before you give your heart away.

I take on a zen detached state so I have no problem with communicating as long as it is reciprocal. Last time we emailed was 15 days ago but I will send a happy TG message. The junk email stopped coming in so either he is on the list or she got tired of not getting any responses from me.




How is it going for you?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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If you find a woman you like and she wants to wait, you'd be a wise man to honor her wishes.
I find this a refreshing point of view. It seems like to many on here, if the girl is not drunkenly willing to put out the same night she meets you, she's not worth your time. I might think the opposite is more likely to be the case if you're looking for a quality woman. But of course it depends on what your goal is for the interaction.
 

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Jean Valjean said:
Hey Weeze


Hope the pain is gone. I don't worry anymore about my ex squeeze. The thing is I am going to be alot more careful about falling again for anyone.
You have to filter and be sure its real before you give your heart away.

I take on a zen detached state so I have no problem with communicating as long as it is reciprocal. Last time we emailed was 15 days ago but I will send a happy TG message. The junk email stopped coming in so either he is on the list or she got tired of not getting any responses from me.




How is it going for you?

It's going okay, ups and downs. Still haven't broken NC, nor has she. Been over 2 months now.

Think I just gotta let this one go, but I still think about breaking NC, the next step for us is walking down the isle.. so unless I'm ready to spend the rest of my life with this chick, I've gotta just lay my hand down and not break NC.

Life is tough.
 
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