some quick help

[MR MIZUN0]

Well after meeting this girl Ashley on vacation, i got her number etc.. well when I got home I gave her a text about liking another lady we both met, and how this other girl is cute, and the she texted something (I forgot what she said) and I replied saying that she was also cut herself, and that she was nice and funny. Well she responds with, I like you (as in relationship). So I said I would call her tomm (November 20). But we have been texting eachother for 3 straight days now.....do I postpone the call, or call her and talk?

This other girl is just out of the picture now, she is just a "friend"

 

[jeffthechef]

I replied saying that she was also cut herself, and that she was nice and funny
Never tell ag irl this...especially so directly..mystery is definitely a big part of the attraction at any level..once a girl knows everything or nearly everything..she'll get bored..unless it's "True Love"...then i think it wouldn't matter..but obviously that isn't the case...so cut back on what you think about her...you want to keep her on the edge of her seat..trying to predict what you are going to do next or what you think of her

Well she responds with, I like you (as in relationship).
how sure are you...girls don't often say "i like you"..unless it's a small answer type of thing for example...You say, "I like pretzels." She says. "OMG..me too....Pause..I like you." and she gives that smile...there are many things /"LIKE" can mean...but if you're sure she meant it as in relatinoship
she must not be that experienced..

So I said I would call her tomm (November 20).
Don't tell her when you're calling...it ruins the mystery..

But we have been texting eachother for 3 straight days now.....
Too much non-direct conversation....save your words for the outings..or else you'll run out of things to talk about....and this takes away from mystery..shows you have time to text..

I know i know..texting doesn't take that long...but you want to be that guy who is living one adventure after another..not spending time sending technological messages to her..

do I postpone the call, or call her and talk?
Assuming you just met her recently..too lazy to reread your original post

then i would call her...keep it short..set up a meeting..but make sure you don't continue to tell her what you're going to do

 

[keepitirie]

ok so you didnt lay out all of the logistics... is there anyway you guys can meet? i thought you guys only met on vacation?

well, if there is any way for you guys to meet, then you've been ****ing up already. you shouldnt just be texting this girl.

texting is for attraction, not for comfort. you need to call this girl, and get her used to your voice. if video chat is possible, hit that up.

texting gets you no where. use it as a tool, but not the only one. its the most impersonal.. use it when you're in class or something... like

"sh1t, im in class x. save me!"

what girls say in texts can be totally different... one of my ex's has told me that she and many other girls frequently lie to a lot of guys when they text because they are texting a lott of other guys and girls (guys for flirting tho). its just a way for them to get validated. you're falling into that trap man. if you're going to text you have to be different.

 

[MR MIZUN0]

Well yeah, cant meet up with her, she lives in California, and I am in NY. But we arranged to call eachother yesterday night, but she gave me a text (her grandmother was over, and her parnets wont let text/call) I know she is not lieing because she was talking to this other girl about how strict her parents are. Well I said I would call her some other time......Ill stick with the whole call thing, and get her on skype.