Some questions

[sdelaray]

I have been reading infidelity forums for a while now trying to get some perspectives as to the human behaviors that lead to infidelity. Thus far, some of the conclusions I have reached point to the bottom line of decision-making. What drives the action of cheating?
For some people it seems to be a preemptive strike. They have been hurt before so they figure might as well be a player than be played. For others it is either to fulfill an emotional need or a physical need that is missing from their current relationship.
My questions keep gnawing at me and would appreciate various perspectives if you have some time and/or willingness.

Do people who take on the preemptive strike stance of "be a player instead of being played" resolve these internal issues with their multiple partners? Does inflating the ego help their self esteem long-term? Or is its just a temporary high? Is this why "once a cheater, always a cheater"?

If an emotional need or a physical need is not being met, is it better to go looking for it elsewhere, jeopardizing the well-being of your partner rather than sticking it out? Is it selfish to demand that need be met, or is its legitimately fair to just bail from the relationship or cheat?



Is it more common for men to cheat? Or for women? What are the main gender differences when it comes to infidelity?

 

[betheman]

a monority of men, cheat a lot, women as a whole have far more otpions than men, that minority of men and women cheat the most in my experience, they are the ones with the options

 

[st_99]

I think chris rock once said.

"men are only as faithful as their options"

 

[VladPatton]

It's the same reason why people murder, steal, or con. Because they are a natural-born piece of sh!t. It's a character component. No balls to end it and start over. They are selfish and want it all regardless of others. Kind of like a criminal mind, isn't it? No one has to cheat, yet they still do. It is the person's natural character made into a choice.