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Classes resume at my university on Mon. and I will be having a very small class with an ex oneitis I've been no contacting since the beginning of Dec. We dated about 2 months and towards the end, she became terribly disrespectful with my time. Making plans became a chore and it was obvious she wasn't interested enough to make it worth my while. And so I just disappeared. She's been sent me text messages periodically and with the beginning of school coming closer, her texting and even now Facebooking is increasing in periodicity. I think she may realize she screwed up and is also in an attention slump at the moment and needs a refill. I don't want to give it to her.
And that's what I'm worried about on Mon. I've made a lot of progress, but there's still anger/frustration/hurt from everything that happened that I don't want to convey. She asked me about my class schedule last term and made it a point to sign up for at least one class with me and it's going to be the 2 of us and 7 other people. I am almost positive she's going to ask me wtf happened to me/us. I haven't been sitting and stewing about this, but I do want to consider what the best way to handle this convo would be so as not to convey any of the negative things I amy be feeling while at the same time, not obsfucating my true feelings/intentions because of her unacceptable behavior. She's just about come out and asked me what's going on as it is, so if she were to ask me right now, I'd probably say something like
"I had romantic feelings for you before, but I realize that was a mistake"
I've disqualified this girl as a potential girlfriend so all I would want from her is sex. I feel like given what's happened, letting her know I was interested but see that as a mistake will make her feel highly insecure if I can properly convey I've moved on and am congruent with what I say. I don't want to totally burn the bridge either though and not get any sex.
What would you guys do here?
And that's what I'm worried about on Mon. I've made a lot of progress, but there's still anger/frustration/hurt from everything that happened that I don't want to convey. She asked me about my class schedule last term and made it a point to sign up for at least one class with me and it's going to be the 2 of us and 7 other people. I am almost positive she's going to ask me wtf happened to me/us. I haven't been sitting and stewing about this, but I do want to consider what the best way to handle this convo would be so as not to convey any of the negative things I amy be feeling while at the same time, not obsfucating my true feelings/intentions because of her unacceptable behavior. She's just about come out and asked me what's going on as it is, so if she were to ask me right now, I'd probably say something like
"I had romantic feelings for you before, but I realize that was a mistake"
I've disqualified this girl as a potential girlfriend so all I would want from her is sex. I feel like given what's happened, letting her know I was interested but see that as a mistake will make her feel highly insecure if I can properly convey I've moved on and am congruent with what I say. I don't want to totally burn the bridge either though and not get any sex.
What would you guys do here?