"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Some online dating FACTS

silverfox

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Yep - not opinions, prejudices or guesses but facts. As someone who has tried internet dating sites I found the following but not wholly surprising.

I was reading a great book called Freakonomics which mentioned a study of 30,000 subscribers (half in Boston, half in San Diego) on a popular dating site. The main gist was to see if all the people who put they were happy with a partner of any race were contacting people from a variety of races or just their own. For both men and women, over 90% who posted race was not important only contacted people of their own race.

However, in the course of doing this study the researchers came across a number of interesting statistics.

-Subscribers tend to be between 26 and 35.
-57% of subscribers were male.
-More than 4% claimed to earn over $200k.
-70% of women and 67% of men claimed above average looks.
-Both men and women typically reported being at least 1 inch taller than the national average.
-A man who doesn't post a photo gets 1/4 of the email of a man who does. The figure is 1/6 for a woman.
-Men looking for a long term relationship do well. Women looking for a fling do well.
-For men, a woman's looks are critical and the preferred types for dating are students, artists, musicians, celebrities, veterinarians but not secretaries or woman in law enforcement or the military.
-For women, a man's income is critical and the preferred types are financial executives, firemen, policemen, military personnel. Labourers, students and food service workers do not do so well.
-For men being short is a disadvantage so height is the thing most men lie about. Being overweight was not a big disadvantage.
-For women being overweight is a big disadvatage so weight is the thing most women lie about.
-For a man being ginger, curly haired, bald or balding was not good (shaven headed was ok.)
-For women being blonde was a huge advantage.
-57% of male subscribers and 23% of female subscribers did not even receive one email.
-On average subscribers claimed to be taller, skinnier, prettier, blonder and richer than national averages would suggest.

So what does this tell us? Nothing we probably didn't already suspect but it is interesting to see it stated in black and white. The original paper can be found at the link below for the scholarly among you.

http://www.aeaweb.org/annual_mtg_papers/2006/0106_0800_0502.pdf
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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very interesting post...believe it or not, HEIGHT is a major issue with women as far as finding the right guy
 

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Freakonomics is a kick @ss book! :up:
 

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Financial Executives huh ? Looks like someone will be gettin' some major 'tang in the next couple years from online sites, lol.
 

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Hey Francisco, if my univeristy courses in economics had been more like freakonomics I would have enjoyed it a lot more. :yes:

Yeah I think being honest in my profiles didn't help. But I am 5'8 and I can't see the point in lying about it. The girl would turn up and say - hey! you aren't 6'3! LOL. I did get more than one email though so I guess I did something right. Only got one date though and it wasn't great.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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Yeah, I hated economics is school too. It proves that's things that don't follow the norm tends to be a bit more attractive.

Here's an example, believe it or not a guy's attitude plays a huge part when sarging online. Yeah, looks may seem paramount but when it comes down to it, women want to go out with a guy that's entertaining. A guy with an attitude that is attractive to them will have more opportunities to show his value than a guy with looks alone.
 
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