some oneitis help please

[cataxdz]

So I cut off contact with her for half a year ( put her on invisible on facebook, and cut notifications from her on my news feed) and with the help of alcohol combined ( 1,2 beers / day ) helped me to.....forget her (?) , so basically no contact.

A few weeks back, my best friend told me she posted a pic with her and a guy(I don't know why he did this though,he knows how I feel), he told me he heard when her friends said they're together for 4 months.
To cut this short, I slept in my own vomit that night, literally.I didn't drink much, but I felt so sick, I thought I was going to die.


I changed a lot since she refused me and ****, I was a complete AFC . I work out,I improved inner game,and I have much more confidence.

Anyway, I got passed that,but today, I decided **** her, I am over it, so I put myself visible for her on fb again.
Obviously, like always, she initiated contact, saying: " oh my god, new people! it's been a long time since I saw you around. Was going to say you're not fat anymore, but I woulda asked too much from you"
The fat thing is a joke between us, I always called her fatty, altough she isn't, so she returned the "favor" .


Is this a sh1t test ?

 

[GotED?]

You are NOT OVER her.

Still invested too much emotionally - enough to POST and start a THREAD about her on here.

If you are truly 'FVCK HER I AM OVER HER', you would not even be here.

Re-think your AFC-ness, it still dwells deep inside of you - hoping for that dim light of possibility that she is actually 'luring' you back (which is all false and figment of your own desperate imagination).

Be well.

Exodus

 

[narcissist]

Dude. Get rid of her facebook, her twitter, her instagram, her snapchat, her number, her EVERYTHING.

It isnt afc, its called moving the fvck on.

To get over a girl you must fall of the face of the earth TO HER. She doesnt exist to you anymore.

She has a new man? oh well

She got really hot? fvck it

She won the lottery? pfftt dont give a sh!t

Focus on yourself. Stop drinking. Drink only water. Eat healthy, work out. Read books. Get out there and talk to new people. Get numbers. Get friends. Get plates to spin. Read the DJ bible. Post a journal and write in it EVERYDAY.

I want to see you in one year fully transformed into a don juan boss mother fvcker that has his sh*t together.

Having her on facebook and all other social media is the worst thing you can do. Because you have the opportunity to focus on her still. Believe me. Been there done that. ERADICATE her out of your life mate. The sooner you do that, the sooner you can move on and become a fvcking boss.

The goal isnt to "show her shes lost the best thing thats ever happened to her"

The goal is to make yourself okay with the notion that she is not your girlfriend anymore.

It will take time but NO CONTACT is the best strategy to not caring, and being content without her. But real no contact. Delete her of facebook if you dont have the will power to not talk to her.

oh and last thing... "is this a sh!t test?"

who gives a sh*t, its only a sh*t test because you want it to be. A sh*t text entails that there is attraction. And believe me, there aint.

Move on. Become a boss. forget about a girl that gets a new man in 2 months after breaking it off with you. Youre worth way more then this bro.

I want you to make a declaration.

Say this in your head 5 times. Actually scratch that. Write it down 5 times in sharpie on paper and tape it to your wall.

"I will become the best man I can. I will never stop growing. I will constantly push forward. I will be a fvcking boss, and I will live everyday to its fullest."

when you wake up. read it everyday 5 times. And when you are about to sleep. Read it 5 times.

Then after that, post in here your goals for the next year. Then after that clean up your house. Dont skimp out on it. Clean it up perfectly. Then take a shower and meditate. Get rid of the booze.

This will make you feel way better

Good luck.

PM me if you need more advice. But if you truely want to turn your life around its up to you. Its your life. Make it the best it can be.

 

[RagingBalls]

The first thing you need to do is to change the way you think . You think she'll consider how you feel? Nada my friend. It doesn't work like that with a girl that rejected you and to most people as well. She has the right to do whatever she wants and that includes being with another guy. It didn't even crossed her mind on how you'll feel about that, it's about her living her life and you should do the same too, and that is to accept that fact and walk away.

Acceptance is the key that goes hand in hand with the abundance mindset, Reinforce an abundance mindset, that you can not always get what you want, but it doesn't mean you'll stop there. There are much more girls like her.

 

[Icegreen]

Think about a girl that you blatantly used just for sex, and then dumped her. Why did you toss her out? Because she was labelled loser in the deepest crevasse in your mind. Every time she called or texted you, you felt disgusted, and only replied out of curiosity of what she had to say. You even considered meeting up with her so you can get the bone wet.

That is exactly what ex girls do, but with regard to emotional response being replaced with sex. She will respond to you just to get an emotional feel and ego boost, she will consider meeting up to get an emotional feel and ego boost. Nothing she does or says is for you bro. You are a loser in her sub conscience, just like the girl you humped and dumped.

Move on, you're a man. Men aren't affected by age as much as females. Get in the gym, get lean, get other women. There is no need to keep that chick in your life. There are thousands out there.

Acceptance is the key that goes hand in hand with the abundance mindset, Reinforce an abundance mindset, that you can not always get what you want, but it doesn't mean you'll stop there. There are much more girls like her.

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