"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some Older can Women be Attractive

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Some Older Women can be Attractive

I was at a salsa dance class on Friday and I met an attractive 40 something year old woman. Yes, I was surprised that I was actually attracted to her. But, the things that attracted me to her are the very things most North American women lack.

She was FEMININE! She was dressed in a blouse and long, flowing skirt that showed off her slim body and long legs. I actually told her this. I told her I found her very feminine and it was refreshing to see that. She agreed with me. She told me that she wanted to be the women in a relationship and wanted the man to make decisions, take charge and lead. I have seen woman like this in Europe, specially in southern Europe, but they are rare in N America. I will be seeing her again next week. And I will ask her out.

Not to say that this has put me off the young ones. In fact, just yesterday, I picked up an 18 year old at the mall. Two hours later, I was making out with her, with my hand under her short dress.
 
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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True enough. It'd be nice to find women who still understand the art of being coy and effeminate...who know HOW to be seduced.

These days, women can't be "seduced". I miss the days when women looked at sex as "bad" and "naughty" and it was the man's job to convince her of how much fun being "naughty" could be.

With women these days, sex isn't a naughty adventure. It's either a sport, or it's a means of emotional manipulation. Neither of which seems "effeminate" to me.
 

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As an older guy myself, I hear what you're saying. Sometimes it seems like there are very few women my age that are attractive. Sounds like the one you met has taken care of herself at least, that helps a lot. Too often Women in their 40s have let themselves go. If they'd keep themselves fit there would probably be a lot more hot older women walking around.

It depends on my mood. Generally right now I like women in their early 30s. But I have days when I can see the appeal of some older gals, in fact today was one. I know some older guys swear there is nothing better than an older woman. I haven't reached that point yet, but who knows, I may come to see things their way someday.
 

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zekko said:
As an older guy myself, I hear what you're saying. Sometimes it seems like there are very few women my age that are attractive. Sounds like the one you met has taken care of herself at least, that helps a lot. Too often Women in their 40s have let themselves go. If they'd keep themselves fit there would probably be a lot more hot older women walking around. .
The last thing I intend from this post is for some older N American hag to read this and think to herself, `Yeah, I still got it`. Most probably, no you DO NOT have it. Either you are too fat. Or you dress like a slob. Or you dress or act or want to be like a man. Most men are attracted to women that project feminity. What most women dont realize is that in their effort to be equal to men, they have started projecting masculinity. We want women, not wannabe men. How hard is that to understand.
 

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Oh man, could I tell you some stories about women and their appalling behavior in dance class.
Here is a snippett of their craziness, thanks to their feminist, liberal education.

I was teaching a 20 something chubster who had the typical brat attitude of Gen Y chicks. SHe was dancing like a fridge on wheels- heavy and sluggish - damn hard work.
WE tried a few different steps but she became heavier and started to resist my lead. I stopped and reminded her that it is the woman's job to follow the man ," ..that means compliance, honey ".

SHe bristled and pukked this at me, " I do not like men dominating me, I will only take those steps that I CHOOSE to take !"

I had enough of this creature," Perhaps you would be more at home in the women's wrestling team ."

I just walked away- her jaw drop was priceless.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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jophil28 said:
Oh man, could I tell you some stories about women and their appalling behavior in dance class.
Here is a snippett of their craziness, thanks to their feminist, liberal education.

I was teaching a 20 something chubster who had the typical brat attitude of Gen Y chicks. SHe was dancing like a fridge on wheels- heavy and sluggish - damn hard work.
WE tried a few different steps but she became heavier and started to resist my lead. I stopped and reminded her that it is the woman's job to follow the man ," ..that means compliance, honey ".

SHe bristled and pukked this at me, " I do not like men dominating me, I will only take those steps that I CHOOSE to take !"

I had enough of this creature," Perhaps you would be more at home in the women's wrestling team ."

I just walked away- her jaw drop was priceless.
Yes, Salsa is a very macho dance. The man leads the woman follows. If you are fat, feminist slob who doesn`t like men taking the lead, DO NOT take a salsa dance class.
 

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MrLuvr said:
Yes, Salsa is a very macho dance. The man leads the woman follows. If you are fat, feminist slob who doesn`t like men taking the lead, DO NOT take a salsa dance class.
Latin dance requires a strong male presence because latin dance is a metaphor for seduction.
In fact that is true of all partner dance. All dance is male dominated.

I take a Ballroom church group for two 12 week semesters each year. The guys come in with their chubby domineering wives and they CANNOT take the lead. I constantly have to remind a lot of those women that HE is in charge not her.
 
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