"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Some misconceptions this site gave me

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1) an interested girl will always drop what she is doing for you. Well, this is the case sometimes, but some girl's lives do not revolve around you. Just because she said no does not mean she isn't interested. However, the key is if she offers a counter offer.

2) Every girl is screwing 5 other guys on the side. Some girls do this, but you can tell if they are. If your gf or serious plate is talking to another guy than you will know for sure without having to ask. It is your fault if you ignore all the red flags and ****. If you get surprised than drop her lol.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Good post. I agree, especially a woman with a life (work, fitness, social circle, etc). Believe it or not, there are women that work 40 hours a week, train 4 times a week at the gym and hang out with their girlfriends 1-2 times a week.

Women don't think like guys. They are more picky. They're more about quality than quantity. That's why you hear so many guys here complain they can't get a chick. A guy would f*ck down but a woman does not. And women enjoy sex more with a person they feel a connection with, not randomly with 5 plates at the same time.
 

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Yep OP, you've got it. The idea that the average girl is out there banging other guys 24/7 is laughable. Complete nonsense.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
1) an interested girl will always drop what she is doing for you. Well, this is the case sometimes, but some girl's lives do not revolve around you. Just because she said no does not mean she isn't interested. However, the key is if she offers a counter offer.

2) Every girl is screwing 5 other guys on the side. Some girls do this, but you can tell if they are. If your gf or serious plate is talking to another guy than you will know for sure without having to ask. It is your fault if you ignore all the red flags and ****. If you get surprised than drop her lol.
Girls can say No, then offer a counter offer..then flake on you. Just because they counter offer doesn't mean there interested. Girls love attention and their feelings are their compass.

Attraction has an expiration date. If she is texting you/asking you to hang out and actually does (strike how the iron is hot) because with all the outside attention women get nowadays (social media/technology etc)..you gotta make the most out of your chances..So while they may not be screwing 5 other dudes...bet your @ss there talking to that many.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Rival said:
So while they may not be screwing 5 other dudes...bet your @ss there talking to that many.
You see, in my experience this is not categorically true. There are girls who are "talking" to a bunch of guys but I'd say that's less than half of them. And they're usually girls I don't have any interest in hanging out with anyway, so it's not like I'm pursuing them.

You're in control of what type of person you choose to spend time with. So just don't waste time with those types.
 

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Rival said:
Girls can say No, then offer a counter offer..then flake on you. Just because they counter offer doesn't mean there interested. Girls love attention and their feelings are their compass.

Attraction has an expiration date. If she is texting you/asking you to hang out and actually does (strike how the iron is hot) because with all the outside attention women get nowadays (social media/technology etc)..you gotta make the most out of your chances..So while they may not be screwing 5 other dudes...bet your @ss there talking to that many.
Because most of us have to talk to bottom of the barrel american women. Most of the good quality american women are taking by pretty much hs and they just exclusively date within that social group. This leaves us with low quality american sloots which require game/looks to get. This is why we are on this site lol.
 

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Because most of us have to talk to bottom of the barrel american women. Most of the good quality american women are taking by pretty much hs and they just exclusively date within that social group. This leaves us with low quality american sloots which require game/looks to get. This is why we are on this site lol.
there are no good quality women. women are the same as men. beasts that like to talk, eat, sh1t and hump. you still don't get it, do you? stop worshipping women like they are the answer to your life. they are not.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
1) an interested girl will always drop what she is doing for you. Well, this is the case sometimes, but some girl's lives do not revolve around you. Just because she said no does not mean she isn't interested. However, the key is if she offers a counter offer.
There is a difference between interest after a first meeting, and interest after dating for a month. Women's interest in the beginning is fickle while their interest after developing significant rapport is more stable.

2) Every girl is screwing 5 other guys on the side. Some girls do this, but you can tell if they are. If your gf or serious plate is talking to another guy than you will know for sure without having to ask. It is your fault if you ignore all the red flags and ****. If you get surprised than drop her lol.
The whole 'screwing guys on the side' things is a bit overhyped on this site. Women are generally linear with the guys they're fvcking, but there are exceptions regardless of the 'type' of woman she is. However, some women will keep orbiters and some will not.

A woman's indulgence in sex will be conditional on her emotions. If she's "taken" but fvcking another guy, it's because the other guy is stimulating her emotions more than her partner is.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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If a woman is "into" you, and I mean REALLY "into" you, she will move heaven and earth to be with you. I don't care how much she's got going on in her life, how busy her schedule is, or who else she's seeing, but she will make it happen.

I wasn't going to see one of my plates for four weeks after yesterday. As soon as I mentioned that in passing yesterday, she suggested she meet me in two weeks in Florida when I'm down there for a family event so she can "visit her sister nearby" and come over to the hotel once the event is over. This is a divorced surgeon with 2 kids whose office practice now sees 100 patients a day at only one of her three offices. And she's a triathlete who runs at least a half-marathon per month. Does that sound like a woman with a lot of spare time? No. Yet in the midst of everything she's making a trip just so that she can see me sooner than four weeks.
 

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Stugots26 said:
If a woman is "into" you, and I mean REALLY "into" you, she will move heaven and earth to be with you. I don't care how much she's got going on in her life, how busy her schedule is, or who else she's seeing, but she will make it happen.
Realest words said on SoSuave in a while. A long while!!:rockon:
 

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Realest words said on SoSuave in a while. A long while!!:rockon:
That's how it should be lol. That's why I said counter-offer.
 

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there are no good quality women. women are the same as men. beasts that like to talk, eat, sh1t and hump. you still don't get it, do you? stop worshipping women like they are the answer to your life. they are not.
only thing I'll add to this is...that its true, only women fake the funk more than men. That's why I like Russian girls. They act more demure, they're all the same, but they think they are lady like when they act like they don't stink.

my mom told me a long time ago...girls just act a certain way...you have to know them for a long time.
 

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Stugots26 said:
If a woman is "into" you, and I mean REALLY "into" you, she will move heaven and earth to be with you. I don't care how much she's got going on in her life, how busy her schedule is, or who else she's seeing, but she will make it happen.
Not at the beginning. We hear this all the time but it just isn't true for the first few times you're getting together with a girl.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Not at the beginning. We hear this all the time but it just isn't true for the first few times you're getting together with a girl.
True. If she's waaay into you, then you might be dealing with a stage 5 clinger. That sends up a red flag.
 

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True. If she's waaay into you, then you might be dealing with a stage 5 clinger. That sends up a red flag.
Exactly. Early on, I almost prefer her to not be able to clear her schedule at a moment's notice. If she drops everything for a guy she barely knows that's just weird.
 

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Well way too much interest from her early on, too much too soon, ruins it for me. No challenge. I hate that.
 

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Can't believe jack shıt mofos write on the interwebs except for us cool ass SoSuavers. Wait, we're on the internet, too. Damn.
 

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Dhoulmagus said:
1) an interested girl will always drop what she is doing for you. Well, this is the case sometimes, but some girl's lives do not revolve around you. Just because she said no does not mean she isn't interested. However, the key is if she offers a counter offer.
it simply depends on the excuse she gives you imo.

if she tells you she has to shampoo her hair or something, she's obviously not interested, would your desire to wash your hair stop you from going on a date? or would you just push it forward or back?

but if she tells you she has her grandmother's funeral, well, I can see why she wouldn't be able to make it that day.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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