During my first sexual experiences, I had strange things happen to me, like issues with condoms or excessive tension that resulted in an inability to achieve an erection. I haven't been able to have intercourse since then and I've become afraid. I haven't tried anything other than oral sex for a while. What do you think is the reason for this? Am I overthinking things, or has anyone else experienced something like this?
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*Stop jerking
*Stop watching pron
*Find a woman you can feck raw
*Stop overthinking
*Get a stimulant ( a LEGAL viagra - esque type substance)
* take you time with the foreplay
* find out what position turns you on and what doesn't work for you. ( sometimes I don't like a woman on top , while doing doggy I can be somewhat soft and slowly get hard without feeling pressured)
* use lube
Don't be afraid of the most enjoyable thing in the world..
*Stop watching pron
*Find a woman you can feck raw
*Stop overthinking
*Get a stimulant ( a LEGAL viagra - esque type substance)
* take you time with the foreplay
* find out what position turns you on and what doesn't work for you. ( sometimes I don't like a woman on top , while doing doggy I can be somewhat soft and slowly get hard without feeling pressured)
* use lube
Don't be afraid of the most enjoyable thing in the world..
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Yeah you should try again. sounds like you were not yet comfortable. Probably not that uncommon to be fair.
also men overlook that our bodies do respond to certain situations to protect ourselves. You very well might have dodged a bullet with that babe
also men overlook that our bodies do respond to certain situations to protect ourselves. You very well might have dodged a bullet with that babe
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This sounds like sexual performance anxiety. The main premise is that your body isn’t responding smoothly because of tension or pressure in the moment, rather than any real physical issue.
Either way, you could:
1. Try working out. From my bro-science background, heavy squats and deadlifts are often linked to increased testosterone. You can also run a HIIT program. As the study I linked suggests: “The most recommended exercise was aerobic exercise. Consistent aerobic exercise proves to be a hopeful and efficient non-drug intervention for enhancing erectile function in men.”
2. On top of that, you can try over-the-counter supplements like maca and ashwagandha, which are commonly used for improving energy, stress management, and sexual performance. You can try viagra next time and see if the problem fixes itself after that.
3. If those don’t work, take it slower.
It sounds silly, but cuddle. Slower intimacy can help you relax, and when you’re relaxed, your body responds more naturally. It has nothing to do with thinking you are above or below a woman, you’re just not fully comfortable in that situation yet. More practice helps.
Hopefully this puts some hair on your chest.
Either way, you could:
1. Try working out. From my bro-science background, heavy squats and deadlifts are often linked to increased testosterone. You can also run a HIIT program. As the study I linked suggests: “The most recommended exercise was aerobic exercise. Consistent aerobic exercise proves to be a hopeful and efficient non-drug intervention for enhancing erectile function in men.”
2. On top of that, you can try over-the-counter supplements like maca and ashwagandha, which are commonly used for improving energy, stress management, and sexual performance. You can try viagra next time and see if the problem fixes itself after that.
3. If those don’t work, take it slower.
It sounds silly, but cuddle. Slower intimacy can help you relax, and when you’re relaxed, your body responds more naturally. It has nothing to do with thinking you are above or below a woman, you’re just not fully comfortable in that situation yet. More practice helps.
Hopefully this puts some hair on your chest.
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“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
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Some people at this forum don’t really deserve helpful information
like helping the wrong people
like helping the wrong people
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its normal for a man to wake up to a hard on usually. if that is happening for you, then its likely mood and confidence. Its very understandable to be afraid after its not working....
if you don't wake usually with a hard on then investigate that. i think the forum can suggest things for health if that the case. but that's the first triage....
if you don't wake usually with a hard on then investigate that. i think the forum can suggest things for health if that the case. but that's the first triage....
I don't get an erection every day, especially when I eat poorly, don't exercise, and drink a lot of alcohol, but when I meet up with a lot of girls and when we kissing or oral sex, I don't have any erection problems, and I also enjoy kissing and oral sex.
Of course, I'm getting better when I pay a little more attention to my lifestyle (nutrition, exercise, sleep).
By the way, do you think regular smoking affects your erection?
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okay. so make the things you already know about. get healthy and strong. don't know what your smoking, different things have different effects....
if its a real question; its important to be healthy. the triggers are mental but the mental trigger goes through chemicals and biology. there is a bunch if glitches that can happen. most men have had at least one of them at some point in life. most men deny that....
if chemicals and or biology are off, the mental triggers will not work. its not a value thing... its a health thing.
lastly the mental can also turn it off. that's the default answer you might often hear.
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Smoking and alcohol can DEFINITELY cause that. Most common trouble if you don't actually have a diagnosed condition of course. This goes without saying, but it's harder to get it up for someone you don't find hot enough to put it in.
