"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Some interesting feedback I received

bruceartest24

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Background: Met this cute girl we went out a few times but I failed in performing KINO... Afterwards it felt like i got friendzoned.

Recently: After the failed attempts, I tried to hangout again but was not successful.

I aborted the mission and pursued another girl who we both know. This other girl gives me ton of attention and I asked her out and she goes she would love to, and we set some time up.

The next day the previous girl and I strike up a convo and she goes that she rarely goes out, and she prefers to stay home. Even with best friends she cancels and enjoys a lone time. In my opinion she was trying to give me reasoning why we havent hung out in a while and that is just how she is but given the fact that we actually went out a few times means she might see me more than just a friend.

Wanted to know what you guys think of my situation.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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backbreaker

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you snooze you loose.

if she liked you she should have done enough to show. you shoudln't have to guess if a girl is into you or not. that's on her. move on. **** her feedback.
 

The Gambler

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backbreaker said:
you snooze you loose.

if she liked you she should have done enough to show. you shoudln't have to guess if a girl is into you or not. that's on her. move on. **** her feedback.
I basically agree with this. The first gal likes you and knows you're a decent guy, and is now having a bit of the infamous female "jealous reflex" because you've moved past her and on to other women. Unfortunately, it's nearly impossible to go back to the first gal with any real chance of long-term success.

But we all live and learn. Let the first gal suffer with the fact that she missed the boat on you. Maybe down the road, if you have nothing better to do, you can see what's up of your paths happen to cross and you're available... But I wouldn't advise doing that anytime in the near future. You need to give that jealous reflex some time to leave her system before you can figure out what's really going on in that head of hers.

The Gambler
 

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my wife just went to get some takeout so i got a mintue let me break this **** down to you.

see right now, to use an analogy, if you were bowling, you ****ed up the strike lol. however if you play this right, this is a easy 7-10 split spare (a future **** buddy/ONS)

the worst thing you can do rightn ow is give her another chance. what does this actually accopmlish?
  • she knows that she can **** wtih you and get away with it
  • she knows she can be a flaky **** and you don't have any better options
  • she clearly is in control of the sex
****ing walk. this is why you walk. beucase it does the following

  • shows you have a backbone
  • shows you are man that has options.s he had her chance and she blew it. batter up.
  • you leave on an extremely high note. As gambler said, she knows you are a good guy but got too cute.
3-6-9-12 months, you are going to run into her. she might call you back again, she might run into you at a club, you might see her at a friends house. but now the ball is 10000000000000% in your court. you can play stand offish.. and all you got to say is "look, i'll be blunt, you are cool but babe you got to show me that you aren't wasting my ****ing time because i don't put up with girls who waste my time i got better **** to do, so if you aren't wasting my time let's go home and show me what you are working with"


and she will know that without a doubt, you aren't ****ing around. beucase you've walked.


i assure you she will **** your brains out lol. she doesn't have a choice. she put herself in the situation where she has to **** to pass the elimination round.


it goes back to the 48 laws of power, when you know you lost. surrender. you gain more by surrendering than by trying to win a unwinnable fight. you gather your esteem back, you get your mojo back working and she sees you and the tables are now turned.



and even more, it's not like you don't have options. **** the **** out of the 2nd girl have a blast. but now you have set up this girl to be an easy lay, just not at this moment.


some lays are like cooking eggs. some lays are like making pork rub. if you cook the eggs too long they will burn. if you dont' rub the pork long enough it is not going to taste good at all.



the number 1, is a pork rub lay.
 

bruceartest24

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I appreciate all the feedback. I feel the same way, I am going to have fun with the 2nd girl and see where that leads. The first girl is showing more interest now after I moved on and in the near future Ill see whats up.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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bruceartest24 said:
The next day the previous girl and I strike up a convo and she goes that she rarely goes out, and she prefers to stay home. Even with best friends she cancels and enjoys a lone time. In my opinion she was trying to give me reasoning why we havent hung out in a while and that is just how she is but given the fact that we actually went out a few times means she might see me more than just a friend.

Wanted to know what you guys think of my situation.
Translation: "I'm an attention wh0re and I want you to keep chasing me because I'm not interested, I have nothing going for me and I want your attention as a pick-me-up whenever I'm feeling down on myself."

Can't believe you guys missed that.

Drop her like a sack of sh1t. She's good for nothing.

P.S. The above advice comes from firsthand experience.

P.S.S. Admitting flakiness does not make it noble.
 

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Anytime its a no-go, a flake or resistance with no evident reason is simply a lack of interest from her, nothing shameful with that its not mandatory to like someone.

The shameful part is that despite this lack of interest they dont make it clear since they dont want to renounce to the pleasure of having someone chasing them and feeling powerful while their ego is pumped.

This kind of behaviour simply shows lack of human emphaty and respect not only for that particular person but for people in general.
This is the female version of that terrible vices men have of concentrating wealth despite their needs even if it means povery for others.

Women love attention and men love resourches but after a certain point is becomes pathological.
 
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