"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Some interesting feedback I received today

Shivastorm_88

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My uncle told that to my mom last weekend when she went to his house for supper, and she told me that while I was helping her out in the kitchen.


He told her that I have definitely changed over the course of the last year. I seem to be getting more mature and a better overall person, in the sense that I am much more present at family gatherings to help out (set the table, clear the table, take out the trash, etc.) and also that I seem to be much more approachable and genuinely interested in the family members than before. He also said he noticed that I used to be much more introvert before, but now I am becoming much more extroverted, I participate much more in the overall family conversations, I become the heart of certain conversations, I take those who are more silent and "left-out" on the side to speak with them or include them in the discussion that the family as a whole is having.


All in all, these are the kind of improvements I have been looking for in the past 2-3 months when I decided it was high time I switch my life upside down, learn to be a better conversationalist and do the bootcamp. Always good to receive positive feedback like this to let me know I'm on the right track!

There is no real point to this, I'm simply typing this up as sort of a feedback to show that change is possible if you really set your mind to it. I've only been working actively on it since the beginning of the year, perhaps a little before that, and only started the bootcamp on February, but already results have been noticed.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Now this is the sort of stuff Im talking about :up:

IMO there's nothing better than having a good relationship with your family. If your relationship with your family is open and strong, everything else in your life tends to fit in to place on its own :)
 

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I like this...alot, I have been on the same quest to better myself the past 18 months and have noticed opening up more to family members correlates to others out in the world

but I would hate to see anyone rid themselves 100% of their introverted tendencies, if you are truly introverted and didn't have other things going on like extreme shyness then embrace it, don't be a loner, get out there and get it done but don't try to become a polar opposite extrovert

just my opinion of course :)
 

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bilboteabaggins said:
I like this...alot, I have been on the same quest to better myself the past 18 months and have noticed opening up more to family members correlates to others out in the world

but I would hate to see anyone rid themselves 100% of their introverted tendencies, if you are truly introverted and didn't have other things going on like extreme shyness then embrace it, don't be a loner, get out there and get it done but don't try to become a polar opposite extrovert

just my opinion of course :)
It's a good one at that, and I am not riding myself of them, I am actually using them to my advantage. Being introverted, I am not a very big speaker, so that means I must build on other conversational skills, such as listening. It's a valuable tool, and it's almost solely through active listening that I got the feedback previously mentioned.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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