"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some ideas for improvement...

jdawgmcb

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I have tried most of these and im sure that most of you have at one point or the other.

Feel free to shoot down these ideas, as i'd like to hear what you guys say.

1 - Delete your myspace/facebook or make it really vague and boring. Also - When you're trying to find something to do for a night or want to talk to a girl - DONT do it on myspace/facebook. Post pictures of your outings and vacations, but don't use it as a social tool.

2 - ONLY text a girl WHEN SHE TEXTS YOU FIRST. Otherwise, call her. It is easy to ignore a text, not to mention you can't hear flow of voice, etc.

3 - CUT DOWN Masturbation (I said cut down - not cut out) and you will probably feel an increased urge to talk to girls and open sets (Dont cut it out completely or you will go crazy) Also - When you masturbate, focus on completing all the steps to a successful pickup.

4 - THIS ONE I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH. STOP TAKING ALL EMOTIONAL/PSYCHIATRIC MEDICINES. Throw away the prozac, the valium, the xanax, lexapro, paxil, etc. These will only make you OKAY with the way your life currently is. I fell a victim to psychiatric meds and once I was off of them (UNDER DIRECT SUPERVISION OF A DOCTOR) I felt a lot more lively. (For the record i was taking prozac and valium at the same time)

5 - Take down all your girly posters if you know you're going to have girls over. Usually, a man who doesn't get laid has porn posters throughout his room. Instead, conveniently place a single girl shoe or belt somewhere in the corner... this raises social value.

6 - Remember that it is JUST a VIDEO GAME. If you don't get the girl you want, hit the reset button. (Losing at level one and having to restart is a LOT better than losing at level 8)

7 - Don't conform to everyone. Just because everyone's wearing nike shoes and an american eagle button up doesn't mean you have to, be unique. Get a nice hair style and go from there.

8 - If you're feeling like you need meds/drugs, TALK TO A COUNSELOR (preferably male) about your problems. Even if you are under 18, most states have privacy laws preventing them from ever contacting anybody. Also, counselors wont try to push drugs on you.

9 - Go OUT MORE!!! The more you go out, the more you will learn.

10 - Always brush your teeth, nobody likes a garlic mouth.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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DonutMan

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jdawgmcb said:
I have tried most of these and im sure that most of you have at one point or the other.

3 - CUT DOWN Masturbation (I said cut down - not cut out) and you will probably feel an increased urge to talk to girls and open sets (Dont cut it out completely or you will go crazy) Also - When you masturbate, focus on completing all the steps to a successful pickup.
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Is it bad if you do this, and start losing the urge altogether. I decided to cut back, and now I'm like fcuk it. I don't have the time or energy anymore. I haven't stopped talking to the ladies though, I have actually felt more motivation to talk to girls since this.
 

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jdawgmcb said:
9 - Go OUT MORE!!! The more you go out, the more you will learn.
I agree with all points, though I have an issue with this one. On paper it's real easy to say, "Go out and enjoy yourself", but that narrows the focus to those who are extroverted and social, it doesn't help those who don't like going out, or have nowhere to go (in my case, both).

My town has one small, really crappy mall, a few WalMarts and that's about it. Even if I did leave the house, I'd be driving around for hours aimlessly. The only places I go are work, school, gym and home, because that's all that exist here. :cry:
 

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jdawgmcb said:
I have tried most of these and im sure that most of you have at one point or the other.

Feel free to shoot down these ideas, as i'd like to hear what you guys say.

1 - Delete your myspace/facebook or make it really vague and boring. Also - When you're trying to find something to do for a night or want to talk to a girl - DONT do it on myspace/facebook. Post pictures of your outings and vacations, but don't use it as a social tool.

2 - ONLY text a girl WHEN SHE TEXTS YOU FIRST. Otherwise, call her. It is easy to ignore a text, not to mention you can't hear flow of voice, etc.

3 - CUT DOWN Masturbation (I said cut down - not cut out) and you will probably feel an increased urge to talk to girls and open sets (Dont cut it out completely or you will go crazy) Also - When you masturbate, focus on completing all the steps to a successful pickup.

4 - THIS ONE I CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH. STOP TAKING ALL EMOTIONAL/PSYCHIATRIC MEDICINES. Throw away the prozac, the valium, the xanax, lexapro, paxil, etc. These will only make you OKAY with the way your life currently is. I fell a victim to psychiatric meds and once I was off of them (UNDER DIRECT SUPERVISION OF A DOCTOR) I felt a lot more lively. (For the record i was taking prozac and valium at the same time)

5 - Take down all your girly posters if you know you're going to have girls over. Usually, a man who doesn't get laid has porn posters throughout his room. Instead, conveniently place a single girl shoe or belt somewhere in the corner... this raises social value.

6 - Remember that it is JUST a VIDEO GAME. If you don't get the girl you want, hit the reset button. (Losing at level one and having to restart is a LOT better than losing at level 8)

7 - Don't conform to everyone. Just because everyone's wearing nike shoes and an american eagle button up doesn't mean you have to, be unique. Get a nice hair style and go from there.

8 - If you're feeling like you need meds/drugs, TALK TO A COUNSELOR (preferably male) about your problems. Even if you are under 18, most states have privacy laws preventing them from ever contacting anybody. Also, counselors wont try to push drugs on you.

9 - Go OUT MORE!!! The more you go out, the more you will learn.

10 - Always brush your teeth, nobody likes a garlic mouth.
A little specific on the Meds... Though i mostly agree with you.

Most of this seems like detailing DHV, Self Control, and Confidence. It's nice to hear everynow and again though.

One thing, Who the **** would leave with only one shoe? A belt i can understand but a single shoe?

I've got to say, this sounds very sus.
 
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