okay this is my situation, i have been seeing this girl for 2 months now...i used to see her like 2 maybe 3 times a week ...she told me that she wants to be friends and that she doesn't like putting labels on things...here's the thing though we have made out many times and she pretends to be my girl from time to time when we go out with people...and on the other hand she flirts alot with other guys when we go out...once i noticed her flirting habits it made me kinda think how many guys does she have as a kick.... i 've been ignoring her cause i think that it is common respect that if your kicking it with someone not to diss them.....ignoring her has seem to be working . now she seems a little more interested....i'm kinda on borderline now......do any of you guys think i should drop it or continue.....please any feedback from you guys would be great...!!!
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Some Help From The Pros.....
- Thread starter SLICK-RIC
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Chewy Bagel
Senior Don Juan
All girls like putting labels on their relationships (didn't she just label you a friend?). Women define themselves through their relationships.
She probably just likes you as a friend. Keep her around and bang her when she's drunk and horny and has no other guys around.
Find some other women to date and tell her about them - see how she reacts.
She probably just likes you as a friend. Keep her around and bang her when she's drunk and horny and has no other guys around.
Find some other women to date and tell her about them - see how she reacts.
Originally posted by SLICK-RIC
...she told me that she wants to be friends and that she doesn't like putting labels on things...here's the thing though we have made out many times and she pretends to be my girl from time to time when we go out with people...and on the other hand she flirts alot with other guys when we go out
You are a serious AFC. She is using you for your $$$ probably. Womenese for friends is she does not want to have sex with you ever!!!!!!!!
Pretends to be girl when you go out.....you wants to pay her way, wanting a free night out.
Flirts alot with other guys.....She does not want you.
You are a serious chump to be used, disrespected by a girl like that.
If a girl tells me she wants to be friends, this would be the last time I would ever talk to her and I certainly never give her money or buy her anything.
Her Interest level isn't very high is it?she told me that she wants to be friends and that she doesn't like putting labels on things....
Whether you continue with her or not is entirely up to you but you shouldn't allow her to disrespect you any longer.
blackjack
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Hey dude do one thing go in front of a full length mirror and check if u still wear boxers. great u know u wear boxers but still go in front of the mirror drop them down and check if u have ur pair still intact.
WHAT are u still an AFC. stop being it. cone out of ur AFCness and after that get out of her GF zone. u are her girl friend who had a manly appearance..
Let me tell u there is no borderline. u know it when a girl sees u she knows if she is going to **** u or not. if not and she is still with u she will **** u in a week 2, 3 , 4 thats it and u are seeing her 3 times a week. and still no fu<k. man figure ur problems first.
Show u are the man .
Chewy Bagels idea of banging her while drunk is pathetic.
but his next idea of finding another woman to date and letting her know the idea would sure shake the martini. Pour this mix into her glass and let her taste it . U would get some reaction and believe me it would be good cause u will win from every situation.
Possible scenes:
1) she will get to realise ur value and open her self to u
2) would not like to see or talk to u again. good u know already she was a gold digger.
3) u would have an upcomming better option. with other woman as u are still stuck with a 2 month old gravy.
4) U are imporving ur DJ leavel when it comes to dumping or getting dumped. Hey.. U didnt failed.. u passed cuz u are not a lousy romeo. u are a mordern cassonova.
WHAT are u still an AFC. stop being it. cone out of ur AFCness and after that get out of her GF zone. u are her girl friend who had a manly appearance..
Let me tell u there is no borderline. u know it when a girl sees u she knows if she is going to **** u or not. if not and she is still with u she will **** u in a week 2, 3 , 4 thats it and u are seeing her 3 times a week. and still no fu<k. man figure ur problems first.
Show u are the man .
Chewy Bagels idea of banging her while drunk is pathetic.
but his next idea of finding another woman to date and letting her know the idea would sure shake the martini. Pour this mix into her glass and let her taste it . U would get some reaction and believe me it would be good cause u will win from every situation.
Possible scenes:
1) she will get to realise ur value and open her self to u
2) would not like to see or talk to u again. good u know already she was a gold digger.
3) u would have an upcomming better option. with other woman as u are still stuck with a 2 month old gravy.
4) U are imporving ur DJ leavel when it comes to dumping or getting dumped. Hey.. U didnt failed.. u passed cuz u are not a lousy romeo. u are a mordern cassonova.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
FratAndDiddy
Senior Don Juan
bro bro bro
"under my thumb"
the interest level dropped cause you've been ignoring her? she seems interested now cause she needs to get you "back in-line."
dont be a doormat because it may cost you some child support down the line, a lousy marriage and costly divorce where she walks away with everything.
tell her you work 24 hours a day now.
"under my thumb"
the interest level dropped cause you've been ignoring her? she seems interested now cause she needs to get you "back in-line."
dont be a doormat because it may cost you some child support down the line, a lousy marriage and costly divorce where she walks away with everything.
tell her you work 24 hours a day now.
I totally agree with the previous replies. My advice is to be a man, show some courage, assert yourself. You are too good to be messed around like this!
Tell her if she wants to be more than friends, she has one opportunity, otherwise you are going to call it quits COMPLETELY. No friendship, no making out, nobody to hang out with...nothing! And stick by it!
If she's interested in you, she will show it. If she's not, then you have saved yourself a lot of time (and money), and walked away with some self-respect.
What's more, she is making a fool of you in front of other people, so next time she flirts with guys in front of you, tell her you want to talk in private. Then say something like this:
"Look, I'm not the jealous type, but if you want to flirt with other guys, don't do it in front of me. I don't appreciate being undermined in front of other people".
Trust me, this is what she wants to hear. She wants to hear you stand up for yourself. Whatever she says (probably the "we're just friends, so why do you care?" line) show her that you can walk away. Don't sulk, don't make a point. Just casually tell her you have other things to do and you'll leave her to do her own thing.
Friends treat each other with respect, not as a doormat. If she can't deal with that, find other friends.
Tell her if she wants to be more than friends, she has one opportunity, otherwise you are going to call it quits COMPLETELY. No friendship, no making out, nobody to hang out with...nothing! And stick by it!
If she's interested in you, she will show it. If she's not, then you have saved yourself a lot of time (and money), and walked away with some self-respect.
It sounds like she's testing your self-respect and how much she can walk over you. If you don't stand up for yourself, how can she possibly respect you?and on the other hand she flirts alot with other guys when we go out
What's more, she is making a fool of you in front of other people, so next time she flirts with guys in front of you, tell her you want to talk in private. Then say something like this:
"Look, I'm not the jealous type, but if you want to flirt with other guys, don't do it in front of me. I don't appreciate being undermined in front of other people".
Trust me, this is what she wants to hear. She wants to hear you stand up for yourself. Whatever she says (probably the "we're just friends, so why do you care?" line) show her that you can walk away. Don't sulk, don't make a point. Just casually tell her you have other things to do and you'll leave her to do her own thing.
Friends treat each other with respect, not as a doormat. If she can't deal with that, find other friends.
Niq Nova The Mighty
Don Juan
In the words of Pook "No, I have enough friends. Buh-Bye!"
Player_Supreme
Banned
WTF is going on, on this site?
Let me adjust my mega microphone
Attention:
CAPTAIN SAVE A HO'S
This kind of behavior from women is not acceptable!
Some balls here would be nice so we do not have to read these kind of symp assed posts!
OVER!
Yo- Fool let me pull your coat:
1. NEVER EVER EVER EVER let a woman disrespect you in public like this. This bytch has no respect for you as a man. Do not even think about trying to date this ho/freak. A good girl is what you want and she isn't it.
2. If in doubt read # 1 again until it sinks in.
3. Walk the fawk away from this one. Yeah she is starting to react cause your ignoring her...but you will never get her respect cause she already took your nuts away from you.
4. Let's just be WHAT? That means in her sweet little pea-brain:
1. You will never have my respect as a manly type of man whom I will be fawking as soon as you buy me dinner and I see him at another table.
2. You will never get my pvssy...or a relationship outta me..why should I...I'm having too much fun playing men right now...
3. Since you didn't stand up as a man that means I can walk all over you and you lost any chance of every earning my respect.
*************
Walk the fawk away and do not look back at this shark...she is too much for you...your out gunned here
and if you don't
Please do not post up a tale of woe in a few weeks...this site is already getting Symped out
Let me adjust my mega microphone
Attention:
CAPTAIN SAVE A HO'S
This kind of behavior from women is not acceptable!
Some balls here would be nice so we do not have to read these kind of symp assed posts!
OVER!
Yo- Fool let me pull your coat:
1. NEVER EVER EVER EVER let a woman disrespect you in public like this. This bytch has no respect for you as a man. Do not even think about trying to date this ho/freak. A good girl is what you want and she isn't it.
2. If in doubt read # 1 again until it sinks in.
3. Walk the fawk away from this one. Yeah she is starting to react cause your ignoring her...but you will never get her respect cause she already took your nuts away from you.
4. Let's just be WHAT? That means in her sweet little pea-brain:
1. You will never have my respect as a manly type of man whom I will be fawking as soon as you buy me dinner and I see him at another table.
2. You will never get my pvssy...or a relationship outta me..why should I...I'm having too much fun playing men right now...
3. Since you didn't stand up as a man that means I can walk all over you and you lost any chance of every earning my respect.
*************
Walk the fawk away and do not look back at this shark...she is too much for you...your out gunned here
and if you don't
Please do not post up a tale of woe in a few weeks...this site is already getting Symped out
PuertoRican_Lover
Banned
Don't let a girl disrespect you, especially publicly! Keep your dignity and do not keep company with girl 'fiends'!!
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.