Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

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You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Some girls want to take it slow?

bearfan34201

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I just met the girl about 3 weeks ago. And we've been seeing eachother since. All I have got was some kisses, a make out session and alot of cuddling/holding hands.


She was goign to ask me to go to her homecoming, I asked her and went with. Anyways, I was confused cause last night although we held hands and everything. During the dance she didnt seem to look at me in the eyes, one time i moved her chin toward mine to go into a kiss and she like was looking away and moved? A little confused but whatever. We did kiss last night and everything, AND she slept over at my buddies gf with me. We did'nt even do much, she fell asleep early and we flirted/spooned or hwatever. But that's it. OH and today I got a peck.


I'm personally not use to waiting around for things like this. The girls I was hooking up this summer we're easy and fast. But she's slower. She is'nt a virgin. I was wondering if she just wants to take it slow or what? Maybe looking for a relationship?

I know about this whole "you dont need to date her to bang her'. But we're still in highschool and the girl has said she doesnt have sex or anything like that without a boyfriend. Which I actually agree.I'm running relaly low on sleep so this post is all over the place. But maybe someone has a opinion. That would be kickass.



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I would tell her that you think things are going to fast. This will totally mess with her head and make her more aggresive/liberated.
 

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bearfan34201 said:
and the girl has said she doesnt have sex or anything like that without a boyfriend. Which I actually agree.
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You agree? That's why you are posting here, because you become frustrated with her behaviour. It's not much about having sex without having to be their bfs, it's about playing by your rules. It makes women's panties wet to think about wether you're calling or not. It stresses the **** out of us men.

So, if you agree and would rather be getting random pecks and holding hands, rather than makeouts and sex, keep playing by her rules.

As for me, I wouldn't tolerate that, because while she plays her fvcking games I'm dating other women who actually want to do something else rather than pecking. Next time I advice you to man up, and go for the kiss, if she doesn't play along, you next the child.

But if you'd rather play by her game, be my guest.
 

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SamePendo said:
You agree? That's why you are posting here, because you become frustrated with her behaviour. It's not much about having sex without having to be their bfs, it's about playing by your rules. It makes women's panties wet to think about wether you're calling or not. It stresses the **** out of us men.

So, if you agree and would rather be getting random pecks and holding hands, rather than makeouts and sex, keep playing by her rules.

As for me, I wouldn't tolerate that, because while she plays her fvcking games I'm dating other women who actually want to do something else rather than pecking. Next time I advice you to man up, and go for the kiss, if she doesn't play along, you next the child.

But if you'd rather play by her game, be my guest.

Now I understand...everyone in this forum wants easy easy girls...if she is not easy (for you AND everyone else she dates) and wants to take things slow - you next her.

This is a solution to everything - NEXTING.
 

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Babnik said:
Now I understand...everyone in this forum wants easy easy girls...if she is not easy (for you AND everyone else she dates) and wants to take things slow - you next her.

This is a solution to everything - NEXTING.
You don't give yourself credit. You learn how to be attractive in this site, how to moisten their panties. She isn't easy with everyone. Becoming attractive, being attractive, if she isn't down for at least a kiss on the first date, she will want to be playing you etc etc.

I'm guessing that you are the kind of guy that likes women to have a "clean" past etc? Because, you are looking for a ltr because that's why you're playing the game in the first place right? :yawn:
 

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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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We have made out/etc. I'm just stating that I've only known her for 3 weeks and I was wondering if she just wants things to go slow because of the amount of time she's known me.



I'm not playing by her rules. I don't call her too talk, I call to make plans or she calls me.
 

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SamePendo said:
You don't give yourself credit. You learn how to be attractive in this site, how to moisten their panties. She isn't easy with everyone. Becoming attractive, being attractive, if she isn't down for at least a kiss on the first date, she will want to be playing you etc etc.

I'm guessing that you are the kind of guy that likes women to have a "clean" past etc? Because, you are looking for a ltr because that's why you're playing the game in the first place right? :yawn:
I do like women with clean past. I met...very few women with a clean past. Clean means sex only with BF, nothing casual. She could have 5 BFs and it wouldn't bother me. See, women like that are LESS likely to cheat and much easier to trust. Many women lie...I know about that. I met "virgins" and "quality girls" and I met virgins and quality girls.

In his case he said they know each other for THREE weeks which is quite a LOT of time...
 

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bearfan34201 said:
We have made out/etc. I'm just stating that I've only known her for 3 weeks and I was wondering if she just wants things to go slow because of the amount of time she's known me.



I'm not playing by her rules. I don't call her too talk, I call to make plans or she calls me.
I think she doesn't likes you enough to date you. That's why you get the pecks and the string-cat deal, because she likes you, but not enough. 3 weeks is a lot of time, trust me.
 

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Girls want to take things slow when they aren't sure if they want you yet.

It means you aren't doing your job well enough. If you had her wet over the thought of you, she'd be dragging you into the bedroom. Lol, you might be the one asking to take it slow.
 
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