Ok I sometimes act a lil ****y n I've been told by girls that I'm a real good looking guy n sometimes I kinda get from girls like they feel like they're not good enough 4 me. What should I do? Not be ****y sometimes? Also I'm kinda quite sometimes n people think I'm concieted then also. Should I smile more or wat?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Some girls think I'm too ****y n good looking
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Joe The Homophobe
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You have a rare problem. You're a very good looking/confident guy and your problem is that girls think they are out of your league! you have to remember that girls are very low self steam creatures. They don't ask guys out because a rejection would kill them.
You also got another problem, you are quiet. Being a very good looking guy is what everyone wants to be but unless you go to parties a lot/have tons of friends and are very social, your good looks won't do the work for you!! The only thing your good looks will do for you without you doing any work for it is get you is lots of smiles/looks from girls. That alone is plenty and you just have to be brave and approach those that give you the eye contact/smile. But remember a girl fears asking a guy out more than she fears spiders!
Being good looking only helps when you're very social (and are famous) but if you ain't the two you're only advantage over average looking guys is that you get more eye contact/looks from random girls, and more of them will say yes to you compared to an average looking guy. You still have to ask girls out just like every other guy. Don't expect to be asked out just cause of your looks.
You also got another problem, you are quiet. Being a very good looking guy is what everyone wants to be but unless you go to parties a lot/have tons of friends and are very social, your good looks won't do the work for you!! The only thing your good looks will do for you without you doing any work for it is get you is lots of smiles/looks from girls. That alone is plenty and you just have to be brave and approach those that give you the eye contact/smile. But remember a girl fears asking a guy out more than she fears spiders!
Being good looking only helps when you're very social (and are famous) but if you ain't the two you're only advantage over average looking guys is that you get more eye contact/looks from random girls, and more of them will say yes to you compared to an average looking guy. You still have to ask girls out just like every other guy. Don't expect to be asked out just cause of your looks.
I.A.F.Y.B.
Master Don Juan
Show them that they are good enough for you.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
MikeYikes122
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That's not necessarily true. If you're a good looking guy who is reserved, you'll get fleeting looks occasionally, but girls will often be too intimidated by your looks to smile or give you direct EC. What they will do is, they will check you out when you're not looking. And from my own personal experience, it is damn near impossible to catch them doing this.Joe The Homophobe said:The only thing your good looks will do for you without you doing any work for it is get you is lots of smiles/looks from girls. That alone is plenty and you just have to be brave and approach those that give you the eye contact/smile. But remember a girl fears asking a guy out more than she fears spiders!
A lot of times girls will see a guy they think is really hot and just assume that he is out of their league or that he has a girlfriend. Girls are completely retarded, I know, but this is just kind of how things work. Like you said, they completely lack self confidence when they're faced with the challenge of attracting or approaching the opposite sex.
I get told I'm a really good looking guy all the time, but I will sometimes go days without getting EC or a smile from a girl. That's just how it is. I'm outgoing, but I can also be kind of a reserved person. Reservedness + good-looking face can be damning to a guy, especially if he is still a little bit of an AFC like I was three or four years ago. When I was about 21, I had to really overcome that and force myself to talk to chics even if I wasn't getting EC or smiles from them.
I imagine the OP has this problem. If you have a really good-looking face, you can't be ****y and you can't be shy. If you're shy, you just have to force yourself out of your comfort zone and approach random girls. Literally eight or nine times out of 10 the girl will be into you the second you open her. And when you talk to her, ****y is something you can't be because you're just going to intimidate the hell out of her and come off as arrogant. When I first got to this site about five years ago, I read about ****y+funny and it did not work for me at all when I tried to apply it. What does work, however, is having a thin layer of ****iness. I've played the "good guy with an edge" role for about four years now, and it's just gradually become part of my personality.
I know a lot of guys on the MM forum don't agree with me on this subject, but these are my personal experiences, so I stand pretty firmly behind them. And I also can tell you it gets worse with age. When I was in high school and an underclassman in college, I would have girls give me looks, smile and even approach me all the time. I was too AFC to ever have a ton of success with them back then, but I think I'm still making my point. Once I got to be an upperclassman in college and into my mid-20s, the girls became a lot more cryptic with their EC and their glances.
Anyway, I've probably already taken this thread too far off-topic, but if anyone wants to talk about this further they can PM me. I still think most of this is pretty good advice for the OP.
DonGorgon
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people always have a problem with something you need to solve it long enough to get what you want....LOL
haha jagoff
it could be to that i sometimes dress nice cause i work at a business company and i sometimes go to school in a suit n tie cuz i have 2.
ya i get what ur saying but some good looking girls i know like me, get wit the most buster looking dudes.
ya girls are ****ed up in the head. if it werent for ***** id probably be gay lol jp
it could be to that i sometimes dress nice cause i work at a business company and i sometimes go to school in a suit n tie cuz i have 2.
ya i get what ur saying but some good looking girls i know like me, get wit the most buster looking dudes.
ya girls are ****ed up in the head. if it werent for ***** id probably be gay lol jp
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
wheelin&dealin
Master Don Juan
You lack charisma and probably aren't talkative with people. I've been in the same situation.. you've got to open up and have more fun. Don't ignore people and don't have an attitude that you're better than everyonegunit630 said:Ok I sometimes act a lil ****y n I've been told by girls that I'm a real good looking guy n sometimes I kinda get from girls like they feel like they're not good enough 4 me. What should I do? Not be ****y sometimes? Also I'm kinda quite sometimes n people think I'm concieted then also. Should I smile more or wat?
This is a problem that I have been dealing with for some time now... ignoring the "unworthy" seriously will **** up your situation, if you do it, another thing Iv learned is to not be ****y, its the worst thing to do when your a good looking guy. Guys who have mastered the game rarely use ****y funny or negs. they compliment women.wheelin&dealin said:Don't ignore people and don't have an attitude that you're better than everyone