"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Some girl that I madeout with over a year ago...

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...looks at me every time I pass her. Why is this? I thought makeout sessions were supposed to be meaningless (especially ones that occurred quite some time ago). I have not talked to her since the night we madeout and only started passing by her recently. She works at a place I pass by every other day or so. I myself try to avoid eye contact because I don't want her to think I'm still into her from a makeout session over a year ago (seems kind of AFC if you ask me). So my main question is, why is she still looking at me when I was simply someone she madeout with over a year ago?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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She probably is actually a good girl and doesn't sleep around as much as most women do. Which is why you probably never got past making out. She's probably still interested for multiple reasons. First being the reason I said earlier and the second is because you were a DJ and moved on, so you left her imagining about you for the past year.
 
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Play it the DJ way if you wish to reopen it. Otherwise, continue doing what you're doing. Can't see either way being bad.
 
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How would you go about reopening it? I haven't got that much experience yet.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Next time she walks by, point at her, then when she stops, motion for her to come inside. When she comes inside, get her number. (I'm assuming you don't have it). If you have it, then motion her to come inside and ask her out.

She'll love the forwardness and you taking control if she isn't a complete shy prude.
 
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