Some diffculties with myself I've discovered

[Vice]

So I've been keeping a journal of my life and successes with women, and I've identified a few key problems that will drastically help my game when I get them handled:

1. I don't talk to the girl in a group setting, I just look for opportunities to bust on her

This is my number one main issue. Whenever I'm in a group, there might be an attractive girl that I like, and I don't really engage her in conversation. I just look to make some kind of comment at her and that's it. What I need to do is ask her some kind of open-ended conversation (For example where she got the inspiration for her clothing style), and get her locked into conversation and then move her "to a more comfortable place", away from the group. Another smaller issue is that I have this weird need to think that the WHOLE group has to have a topic of discussion, but I'm starting to believe that that is BS and I should lead the topics to more interesting things.

2. I don't smile

I've invested some money into Crest White Strips to whiten my teeth, and I've even been complimented on how white they are. The trouble is, I don't smile as much as I should. I smile when we're talking and make jokes, but it would be much better if I could smile on cue, whenever I want to. I've decided to develop a neuroassociation with a cute girl to smile whenever I see one. That'll take some time and effort, but as you can imagine, once I get it down, the results are going to be awesome. I've read the articles on this site on smiling, and I have a good idea on what to do. Smiling makes me look friendly and approachable, and white teeth are sexually attractive. Go me

3. I'm not as social as I'd like to be

I'm also handling this one. I've been getting more and more social every day. I'll try starting conversations with people around me, when I'm standing in line, at work, that kind of thing. It's been pretty good.

4. I need to practice talking and number closing on girls, no matter how they look

I need to practice getting numbers, and talking to girls in general, no matter how they look. I'll often find myself disqualifying communicating with any girl just because she's not what I'm attracted to.

 

[TheWayOfAllFlesh]

Yeah I don't think i'm good looking but if other people say so just roll with it

 

[JDA70]

This is my number one main issue. Whenever I'm in a group, there might be an attractive girl that I like, and I don't really engage her in conversation.

What's up Vice!


1. What you should be doing is looking for signs of interest or IOI's
from the cute ones. If you aren't getting any then don't waste your energy.

2. Yes Smile more.


3. That's cool.


4.Um... wrong, what you need to do is look for eye contact from the cute girls
and make your move. Forget about practing on the fugly ones.

 

[Vice]

Well, as I said, it's just PRACTICE. So it's okay, at this particular point I need to break through some social barriers. I'll talk to both attractive and not so attractive girls. I'm looking for a skillset, not a girlfriend.

 

[daygameguy]

The problem is you are in the practice stage. Keep practicing, and eventually you will become smooth with the techniques and strategies, and start to use not just your brains, but your heart as well.

You can have any type of outer game, but you have to FEEL what you want. As long as you FEEL and EMBRACE your desire, you will flow in the right direction.

Don't ignore the target completely. Smile and share good eye contact with your target, but just to let her know that you are different from other guys, you need to give her a bit of a challenge to pursue. Otherwise she will get bored, unless you are a celebrity.

Look for IOIs first, then try to isolate, and qualify her before giving her any IOIs from your side. This is MM stuff. The point is, you don't have to follow these rules all the time, though these rules are awesome. Follow your heart at all times. Persist if you have to. Just ENJOY being your best self, and let others get attracted to you, like bugs to bright light.