"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Some confusing business

Get-With-It

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So there's this girl from school that I've known for a while. I tried to hit on her last year but I was still in nice guy mode and ended up nowhere. Anyway, I've drastically changed over the first couple of weeks of school and I think she likes me now. She's been acting pretty friendly to me lately. Like, she'll walk past me and play with my hair and go "Hi Get-With-It".

I let her hold my phone and later (when I checked it) I noticed she dropped her number in it. I'm thinking Yes!! and I call her the next day. Shes like "why did you call me?" I say that I saw her number in my phone and I wanted to talk. She says she doesn't recall doing that then says she has to do something and splits.

Now here I am confused about this whole situation. My homie says she probably had some friends over or something at the time. I'm just wondering what kind of game she's trying to run here. Some elaboration please?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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smoothtalker72

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maybe shes putting on an act for friends? if not then during school when shes flirting shes just trying to get your attention. theres a number of reasons why shed "think" she needs that.
 

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You shouldn't have rung her for no reason? why would you ring, oh lets gossip, lets talk about ur day.. just keep it in RL unless you are geniuinely ringing her for a reason.
 

jeffthechef

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i'm guessing you're new to this site..so am i slightly

one, you shouldnt have called her the next day..

two, you shouldnt have called simply to talk..

perhaps you were overexcited or curious..but nonetheless...
you should talk to her at school some more if you haven't already..then at school, ask her if she wants to hang this weekend...if she says yes, tell her you'll call her and set it up (only call to set up dates..or other SUPER importnat things)..then get oiut of there..make sure you ask before you have to go..
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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saturos

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Maybe its some kind of test? Although this is the crappiest test i've seen >.>
 

Get-With-It

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Wtf, that makes no sence at all
Yeah imagine how I feel.

You shouldn't have rung her for no reason? why would you ring, oh lets gossip, lets talk about ur day.. just keep it in RL unless you are geniuinely ringing her for a reason.
When I did call her I was pretty much going to go into the how was your day one but I thought it would be good flirt material to comment on the way she left me her number.

i'm guessing you're new to this site..so am i slightly

one, you shouldnt have called her the next day..

two, you shouldnt have called simply to talk..

perhaps you were overexcited or curious..but nonetheless...
you should talk to her at school some more if you haven't already..then at school, ask her if she wants to hang this weekend...if she says yes, tell her you'll call her and set it up (only call to set up dates..or other SUPER importnat things)..then get oiut of there..make sure you ask before you have to go..
I called her two days after she left the number in though...
I admit I was kinda curious. Looking back on it, I probably should've just talked to her face to face about it.
 
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