Some "click" moments (1)

[Pozitron]

You make your happiness.
I was coming back from school kind of sad because I was suggesting to this girl repeatingly to go together on the weekend in the park to jog and she was always saying “ I don’t know” which basically is a no.

So I was waiting for the bus when I’ve read this post I saved :

“It's a psychological fact. That anything you depend upon breeds fear.
In other words. If you depend on something to be there. You also live in fear of losing that thing that you depend on so much.
So It goes to say, if your happiness and piece of mind are depending on the day that some girl will walk into your life and give you all of that. You are also in fear of not achieving that goal. This hidden fear will become apparent in the way you walk,talk and interact with women.
It has also been proven recently, that a sixth sense does exist.And it seems to be bestowed upon women, more than men. So girls can also scence your dependency on them, and this turns them off.
You need to constantly tell yourself that you don't need a woman to come into your life. But if it happens. Great!
“
Then I thought about it and he got it right.
You must be the only one responsible for your happiness . You must be independent and have your own source of good and happiness. You make yourself feel good and happy.

You are not dependent on a girl’s approval or rejection or any kind of response to be joyful and happy. It just does’t matter to you if she says no because you don’t NEED her, you just want her.
You must have your own life.
This is abundance.
This is “ the focus is on you”.
This is “ you are the prize to be won”.
We focus too much on women and become dependent on her accepting us.
We don’t need a girl in our life to be happy.

You get a girl because you want to SHARE your love for life and happiness and want to give value and make people feel good. All because you want. You don’t get a girl to make you complete or bring you happiness ( anyway it will never happen).
You already have it(happiness) if you realize that you should be the only one responsible for it and if you improve and choose to evolve and become that person you want.

That makes you attractive. That makes you “ alpha”. That makes you “ the prize”. This makes you feel great.

This makes you take chances and do what you really want- talk to that girl/ approach her/ be honest/ whatever. You don’t depend on her reaction.
You interact because you want to give value and you enjoy making other people feel great( as great as you feel inside). You share your love with others not needing anything back. Your happiness is independent and comes from you. So if she flakes or rejects you or breacks up or ....(you got the point) you know she missed a great opportunity and is her loss.
This is not arrogance, but just being honest and a natural thing to happen if you realize that it’s only you.
You feel like you can do anything and you’re actually doing it.

 

[Echoes]

I agree with absolutely everything here. I don't always practice it but I'm working on it.

But you know what really makes me happy? When people know how to spell. The words 'sense' and 'prize' are two of my favorites

 

[Nino-Tk]

There we go, told you that you'd reach your own sense of enlightment. That was bravo man!

 

[Luke]

This is great!

I've always thought that having a women in my life was the reason to my happiness!

Until she was gone! DOH...

I am finally about to figure the whole thing out and guess what!?

No being in the mindset that makes you think a women is the reason you are happy actually makes you more attractive! And ofc other things aswell!

But this advice is golden

 

[Pozitron]

This is maybe not the best example but anyway:
It's almost like when a guy that has a girlfriend is liked by all other girls ( social proof).
She already has what he wants and 1) he is a challenge. 2) when he interacts with other girls he has nothing to loose and doesn't care about the outcome, but only about feeling good and having fun with them.
It's almost like... one is acting as if he had a girlfriend ( even though he hasn't) and everything was the way he wanted. But this , all I've wrote, is real. There's no pretending or any technique to make you more confident. You should be the only one shaping your reality and interacting with others just because you want to share joy and happiness and love and doing things because you want to, not because you need to boost your selfish ego.